Is it realistic of your childs school to give them poached fish/chilli/curry for lunch and expect them to eat it?

[avenanap]

Just a thought. ds doesn't get any choice of what to eat at school so he often goes hungry. If your child were to be fed this at school would they eat it or is my ds being unreasonably fussy?

Chilli and rice (he hates spicy food)
Curry and rice
Smily faces
Poached fish, bolied potatoes, green beans and parsley sauce.
Fish pie

What does your child have for lunch? Enlighten me!

Those are the sorts of lunches they serve at DS's nursery -I like the fact they cook a variety of things, different flavours, some a bit adventurous etc rather than fish fingers, smiley faces etc day in, day out

I meant to add that they don't do cooked meals at DDs school (no kitchen and not enough interest to get them shipped in) so packed lunches only

i am very surprised that there is no choice whatsoever. I mean what happens to the vegetarians? Surely there should at least be a vegetarian option.

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If he eats fish fingers but not poached fish then he is fussy. Part of living within a community is not getting your personal favourite all the time. fwiw I wouldn't have eaten school dinners if I knew that my mummy would bring something else in for me.

Whoose wife doesn't give the food?

He used to eat everything until he went to nursery, there were so many children who were fussy eaters. I've struggled to get him to eat anything that isn't bland or isn't meat.

At home he eats: meat (chicken, beef, pork, lamb), potatoes, small amount of peas/carrots/cucumber, fruit, cheese, pasta, cottage pie, tuna steak (but not tuna in a can , homemade meatballs, omelette (sp?), fish fingers, bread.

Have tried stir fry, curry, mild chilli, sweet and sour chicken/pork .

Im a bit sick of buying cookery books. I'm not sure what else to do.

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Looks perfectly normal to me. I am a mean mummy, so I would just let him get on with it - it's not going to do him any harm to go hungry for a few days if he has a good breakfast - he might discover he likes a wider range of things than he thinks he does. But I wouldn't leave him til 6.30 without food if he hasn't eaten his lunch though - why not bring his supper forward a bit?

yes we pay for school lunches

yes he is fussy
dont send food in for him
he will get teased for it eventually

and he wont eat what he gets given if he knows he can moan and get something else

how old is he??

Prideoftheyankees: it was the headmasters wife. ds said she wouldn't let him have the quiche I had taken in for him as the were having chilli that day and not curry .

I'm not sure what they give the vegetarians. A plate of vegetables I think . There have been mass complaints about the fish pie, one child was given a plate of vegetables instead to eat. I dread looking at the menu board.

We had the most fab curry at school yesterday. Our Sikh teacher had to go to the kitchen and asked if they were in competition with her - it was so good.

We always have a choice at school. Meat, veggie, soup, sandwiches, salad bar.

and why hasn't he had tea yet
they have lunch at 12 at our school so shes hungry by 4 and then supper before bed

I take him fruit when I collect him (and maybe the odd chocolate when I know he'd have eaten his lunch) so I know he won't be too hungry until tea time. I love curry and chilli though so it can be a pain when I give it to him and he say's he's not hungry (meaning he doesn't want to say he doesn't want it). I do feel bad when he does this.

He's 9. He's been like this since he was 3.

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...and your school can do nothing right, Avenap

He's had tea. It was cooking whilst I was on here. He finished about 10 minutes ago. I thought standing watching it cook wasn't going to speed it up so I came to chat.

ScienceTeacher. I'm asking about food. Is that not allowed?

Of course

My child's school issues a menu and the child can decide on a daily basis if they want dinners or a packed lunch. The menu has 2 hot choices plus a salad/jacket option and a roll/sandwich choice. dd will eat most things and has dinners; ds (ASD) takes sandwiches as its easier for everyone concerned.

When they go on all day school trips the school provide the children on free school meals with a packed lunch, they do not however provide a lunch bag or any container/ carrier bag to put it in! The number of kids that end up taking their lunch out in their smelly PE kit bags!

Sounds like a nice variety of food to me, avenap. Where would they draw the line if they tried to find something that all children liked? Back to pizza and chips probably and we'd all be moaning. My daughter loves it when the things you list are on the menu cos she's sure to get seconds and even thirds.
Though I do feel for you if you think your child is going hungry. Give him a big breakfast, and an sandwich when he comes out of school. But personally, I wouldn't send stuff in for lunch. One of these days, he might just try something new and like it!