Another fussy eating thread... this one purely for venting frustration!

[hairtwiddler]

I can't remember the last time DD ate her evening meal. I have a strategy, I'm steadfastly sticking to it, but it's sooooooo frustrating. I make such nice meals .

Support please, from others in the 'make no fuss about it and it will pass' camp, and from those whose older children who went through this stage chomp on their greens with enthusiasm while making yummy noises.

You have my utmost sympathy. Ds1 is doing the same. I can't remember when he last ate a proper meal. He won't even try anything I put before him. It is so frustrating (and such a waste of time and food).

At the moment he subsists exclusively on bananas and breadsticks (and biscuits at toddler groups).

The important thing is to stick to your strategy. Do NOT change it or you are buggered.

My dd exists on toast, cheese, bananas and pears.

And the bag of crisps dp gave her tonight

my DS exists on toast, pasta, pizza,chips, fruit smoothies, cheese, He is 4, I was too soft and as Moondog says, we are buggered.

My DD1 (just turned 6) exists at home on: porridge, milk, doughnuts, spag bol, bits of bread, bananas (only one half, other half usually chucked under a chair), fish fingers, peas, jam and any sweets she can sneak in.
She will not eat chocolate, baked beans, burgers (only the bun), anything with protein, anything remotely 'healthy', blah blah blah.
She is the smallest in her class and seems physiologically a bit behind too (hasn't lost any milk teeth yet).
She is alleged to scoff normally at friends' houses and (sometimes) school dinners. In fact I don't allow her to have packed lunch because it would open up another field of warfare.
Bliss isn't the word. My only successful strategy was to turn my back on her and ignore her as she ate. Sadly DH's is to sit staring and shouting at her. Most HVs seem to agree with DH ('eat with your child...'). The whole thing is a nightmare worstened by witless school campaigns telling kids to (she says) only eat fruit and veg. Great for budding anorexics who already dislike protein.
Ah, that was a nice vent!

ds eats fruit and veg mostly with some rice cakes and toast.

No meat/fish/pulses.

Occasional cheese adn yoghurts.

He will eat chocolate/crisps/ice cream but rarely gets them.

Try convincing people that a child who lives off fruit and veg still isn't healthy.

He's better than he used to be though. He ain't ever going to be fat though.

DS eats some fruit and carbs only, no protein (meat, cheese - unless it's grated, fish) or veg. We're sticking with it and not giving him the sweet things he wants unless he eats a reasonable portion of savory but it's not getting any better and I can see a long period of poor diet stretching ahead of us. If anyone has suggestions for sneaking healthy things into his diet they would be much appreciated

Thanks for fellow venting!
When I look at her diet over the course of a week, it's pretty varied. She's only 2, and isn't skinny..plus is pretty good at avoiding coughs and colds.
She eats when we eat, and gets offered what we have. The only alternatives on offer are fruit or a slice of bread and butter. I just hope that all the watching us eating a varied and healthy diet rubs off, and she starts to join in. It just drives me crazy when every night the plate is pushed away with a firm 'No!'
I'm very grateful our council provides a food waste recycling service
All ranting welcome on this thread. It helps not to show DD just how irritated I am!

Can I join? Ds2 is almost 8 and is driving me mad. He will eat cereal, toast, dairy products, eggs, kiwis, grapes and cashew nuts. There is a bit of background - he has been wheat free for 3 years and is back on wheat at the moment waiting for coeliac test, so I know his tummy is playing up.

The other 3 eat so well. He hasn't grown out of it and meals are so painful I feel like crying. He won't eat rice, pasta, potatoes and all veg..... and we're vegetarian. Everyone tells me he won't starve himself, well he does. He simply won't eat any tea. He'll watch the others eat pudding and not bat an eyelid. They say keep offering the food and eventually he'll eat it ... what when he's 21! I've offered him carrots/broccoli/peas etc since he was 6 months and he won't eat them. AAAAAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH.
He's small, skinny and looks 5.

Thanks feel better now.

What time does she eat in the evening. Is she just too tired? Could you try giving her a lighter meal earlier?

I don't think time is the issue, it's all toddler politics I think! We ate (later than usual!) at our local Italian tonight, and she wolfed down fried squid, garlic bread with tomato, and a plate of pasta with a creamy pesto sauce. I'm pretty sure if all had been offered at home, it would have been pushed away!
Still, it's given me a welcome break from the frustration!

I have ds1 who is nearly 5 now refusing stuff he has eaten for years. So the smug look of my child eats pretty much everything has now been firmly wiped off my face.

He has school dinners which I know he eats as one of my friends is a dinner lady and says he always tucks in and it is a very varied menu.

I am trying to stay calm about it but when I have slaved to cook a good healthy meal it really grates on me. Luckily ds2 who is nearly 2 seems to tuck into most of his food. I am starting to understand why people fed their children those turkey twizzlers as they just knew they would eat them.

I am sticking to my guns, he has eaten these things before so I know he does like them, I am sure it is just a power struggle.

I told him tonight that he could get down from the table if he wasn't going to eat, cue hysterics and me doing my best "I'm not bothered if you eat of not" face. He did eventually eat half his cottage pie and ate 2 small pieces of brocolli, 2 peas and 1 piece of sweetcorn. I think the fact I had promised his brother some easter egg for eating so well spurred him on.

Yes, I feel better for the rant too!!