Meal 'bases' that can be adapted?

[TwoInABubble]

Hello,
I'm a pescatarian (eats fish but otherwise veggie) and my DP doesn't eat vegetables (there's definitely an element of AFRID and also trauma before any starts calling him childish etc).

I'm looking for any recipes I can 'start' with a general base (e.g cheese sauce and pasta) and then split to add vegetables/meat alternative to mine and meat to DP's.
At the moment all I can think of is pasta bake and we pretty much just cook freezer food separately together at the moment but I'd love to start cooking 'proper' meals, especially when I start mat leave and then I can easily adapt to add meat and vegetables when DC begins weaning.

Bonus points if it can be made in advance, frozen, then stuck straight in the oven/microwave - because I know that's all that's going to be time for after mat leave!

A basic curry gravy. Can you hide pureed vegetables in that?
Basic tomato sauce (with hidden pureed vegetables) for pasta and pizza toppings.

Has your partner had help with his food issues?

Pitta pizzas
Risotto
Omelette
Curry
Fish pie

Bean chilli

Are all veg off limits or would they be ok if they were blended or disguised? I feel we need more info on what sort of dishes dh eats.

Does DH eat potato?

Pasta with a white or cheese sauce, (Pasta Alfredo) add diced chicken to one portion and prawns to the other. Or another idea is white sauce with chicken (Chicken Supreme) or flaked fish such as salmon, served with rice.

Does the meat eater eat fish? If so fish soup, either with a tomato base or a creamy base such as Cullen Skink.

Thank you for the ideas so far. Hadn't thought of curry as most have onion (the biggest no-no) but he has eaten curries before with no onion/veg, so I'll have to have a play around with recipes.

I could probably get away with specific vegetables blended very well, most of the issue is with texture (so he'll have something with onion powder but even if there was one tiny bit of onion, he'd find it!) He's also said when our children are starting to eat he will try to eat more vegetables as he doesn't want them to be as 'fussy' as he is, but onion will still be a no. This means we will 6 months from when little one is born to 'wean' DH on veg before weaning DC!

Potato is okay, not keen on the peel (again a texture thing). His diet is pretty much white carbs (wholemeal things leave 'bits' that don't chew down, again texture), cheese, potato and chicken haha. He does like cream of tomato soup, so I'd love a recipe that tastes/feels like tinned soup but with hidden veg! He'll eat meats that aren't fatty or too chewy and can't stand fish.

Sounds like soups, might be a way to introduce new veg, ones he didn't try eating growing up. Making sure that they are smooth, and you have a good amount of bread to go with it.

As someone who grew up with a very similar diet, I found that trying foods that I hadn't ever tried before was the way to go, as I had no prior experience of having them. Avocado is a winner for me, as it can be quite smooth. Root veg is another one, because again it can be made different ways same as potatoes can.

Have you got a stick blender?
All basic curry gravies contain onion, but if you blend it to a fine puree he will never know.

I make a smooth tomato sauce for pasta by frying onion and garlic, adding finely chopped carrot and tinned tomatoes. I blend it when the carrots are soft. What you get is a smooth tomato sauce that is slightly sweet.

If you add some Philadelphia cheese to it and some stock, it will taste very similar to cream of tomato soup.

Between you I think you will both have to be very careful not to impose food issues on to your child, and it would be a good idea for your DP to seek help to overcome his food issues now, and not wait until your child is eating proper food.

Stick blender all the way! I got a veggie refuser to eat a Katsu sauce packet with veg by stick blending then passing through a sieve ensure it was 100% smooth.

How is he with strong flavours that aren't veg? Things like garlic, chilli, strong cheeses?

There's a slimming world tomato soup recipe which is tin of tomatoes, tin of beans, tin of carrots, veg stock and 6 small pickled onions which tastes like tinned tomato soup but the carrots are at least one extra veg. You blend until smooth. Might be worth a try and you could add chick peas for you or roast veg?

Yeah proper blender is needed.
When you say "curry bases without onion" were these homemade without it or already bought? Because they would have blended onion in them so he would be fine with blended?

I made sweedish meatballs for freezer. Mash, meatballs in the oven and sauce separately. So you vould do veg on a side as well and then freeze meat and veg portions separately. Froze well.
Chili with mashed potatoes works well as well. I add bit of yogurt and parsley into the mash.

Buy a good blender and batch cook tomato sauce which can be used as a base for bolognaise, chilli, tomato based curry's etc. Wash (don't peel) and rough chop onion, mushrooms, courgettes, carrots, broccoli stem (basically any veg), add an inch of water to a pan and steam. When soft add two tins of tomatoes and a small tin/tube of tomato puree. Blend until very smooth. Freeze in useable quantities. Depending on how you use it later add passata to thin it out or leave as is.