Fussy dd1 with food fobia's, please help

[Marne]

Dd1 has always been a fussy eater, we weaned her on veg, fruit etc so we started well . She's now almost 4 and very fussy. She will ony eat a few things....

Fishfingers (ONLY 100% COD)
Boiled or roast potatoes
Some sausages
Home made pizza (using pita bread)
Cheese

Thats basicly it
She will not touch any veg and if i put it on her plate she cry's and will not eat anything at all even after removing the veg. She will not try anything new

She does eat most fruit at nursery but will only eat berries and banana's at home.

Please help, im fed up of putting her dinner in the bin evry night.

You have probably already tried this but maybe if you got her to make her own food and got her involved with the process of buying ,preparing cooking etc ,she may feel she has some control.

Tis just an idea.

Must be so frustrating for you.

I'd put the veg on her plate and let her cry tbh, and I'd do it every meal every day until she got used to the sight of veg on her plate. I Wouldn't make her eat it, but to remove it from her sight is just justifying the crying.

PS baton carrots, and something to dip them in that she likes, such as gravy, ketchup, chocolate spread at a push. But she must eat the carrot she dipped to be allowed to dip again.

Id just give her whatever meal everyone else is eating. Sooner or later she will eat it.

I have the rule that DD (also 4) does not have to eat the food she is given, but will not be offered anything else (with the exception of plain porridge at bedtime).

I know its hard but try not to let her see your stress - the less of an ishooo it is, the sooner it will pass.

Thankyou for the tips, i like the idea of dipping carrots i will give it a go.

We do alot of cooking together, she likes helping in the kitchen but she still won't eat what we have made

I have tried putting it on her plate evry night and not letting her have anything else, she is happy to go all day with no food

She's not a big eater and she is very tiny for her age so i dont realy want to starve her.

She had a total melt down last night as i tried to get her to try one piece of sweetcorn, i spent half an hour trying to get her to put it near her lips, she got upset and refused to eat her dinner.

She suffers from Anxiety so trying anything new is hard work.

Last year her diet was alot better than it is now, she would eat butternut squash, sweet potato and carrots but now she wont toutch them.

I will keep trying, i wont give up and hopefuly she will eat what we eat. Her little sister eats anything i put infront of her .

It is so good to realise I am not alone. My daughter is a v fussy eatter too! She however won't eat any fruit other than bananas and bizarrely those baby fruit purees - heaven forbid though that I try to give her homemade. I have now given up trying to persuade her to eat other stuff as she throws up if I make her try anything she doesn't like or hasn't tried before even a tiny piece of carrot or a piece of pasta is enough to set her off. She will try it after some coaxing but then generally the rest of her meal comes straight back up after it. Luckily she appears to be fit and healthy and has more energy than is good for me (I'm knackered)!