Please point me in the direction of a website or book to give me back my perspective pleeeease

[TheUnholyTrinityRhino]

dd1 7 and dd2 2 just do not seem to want to eat
They don't seem to see food as a nice thing to partake of. They both have their fave things(none of which are ve4ry healthy) but dd1 is strongly opposed to trying ANYTING new and her attitude to anything different is of real disgust(just looking at it) and instant revultion(is she touches it with her tingue.
dd2 wont touch anything new.
I believe that Ihave ruined their relationships with food by my paranoia about them not eating enough and various things I have tried like almost forcing them, not allowing pudding etc ect

I NEED someone to help me relax about it and give me guidelines to live by so that this is not an issue and I can allow them to learn to love food in their own time
I worr that I will give dd1 an eating disorder if food continues to be such an issue

please help me

I vaguely remeber something about a book about children not eating, where can I get that?

please

pretty please

have no idea, sorry. a friend whose son had a lot of food allergies had heaps of trouble later on (he can now eat lots more things) and consulted a hospital-based nutrition expert to help put them back on track with food habits etc. hope someone else can be of more help.

thanks bundle

just so you know I'm not going to go away

someone help me please

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!!!!!!!!!

You do all realise that I'm just Trinity with a halloween name on.............I'm oking about it but I really am at the end of my tether with the food thing.

pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease

Oh trinity!

I have no advice but not ignoring you!

And bump!

thanks

There is a LLL book called 'my child wont eat'

There's a chapter in Christopher Green's book Toddler Taming about eating and he covers this sort of thing. Admittedly your eldest isn't a toddler, but it might be worth having a look. From what I can see your problem is a common one. Hope to help.

Shall get back to you...

I almost don't want to post - I want to see what you're going to do next! I haven't got any answers, other than my ds1 was the same, ate only pasta rings and chicken nuggets for what seemed like years but he's now 15 and a big strapping lad who eats most things. I remember being told the exact same thing by a mother at the time and thinking 'well it's not going to happen to my ds' ...but it did. I know it;s hard to relax about food (i was brought up to believe food was equivalent to love) and I hate waste but it will not take long, a few weeks maybe to re-educate the little darlings. Leave them to it, don;t make a big thing of it, if they don't eat, let them, but don't give snacks or inbetween meals to substitue. HArd, i know.

You do have to be more relaxed, they will love food in their own time. Small portions, small plates.

If shoved around after 20mins, take it away.

Best thing is not to stress.

me dd seems to eat very little and every meal her plates need scraping. But she gets offered the same food as us and if she doesn't eat much I just clear away. She does get to have Organix snacks and fruit during the day as well as some crisp snacks, and she drinks loads of milk and diluted juice. She is growing and developing well so I will NOT stress about what she eats.

My gran gave me a severe complex about myself by going on and on about me needing to eat more cos I was too skinny (I ate like a fliping horse!) so I will not bear my skinny arms and legs and rounded my back so people might not notice my lack of boobs!

I look at the teens today with their skinny bodies, wearing the fashion of the day, confident and sassy, and I am so sad....... that's what I should be like.

So try to chill and ask yourself, does it really matter if they don't eat everything? Try to offer nutritious foodstuffs and know that they will not starve!

Hi, I just read the book I mentioned above. 'Tis briiliant, you must read it!

I have searched messages for a thread about children refusing to eat and not trying new things and found this.

Just had another horrible tea time where DS1 and 2 refused to eat and I just lost it with DS1

They come home from school with stuff left in their lunch boxes as well (we don't give them much - 3 or 4 things) so I am seriously beginning to wonder how they are surviving on what they eat.

I read the chapter in Toddler Taming about mealtimes and realised we were doing everything he suggested. I read that when DS1 is a toddler and he is now 5.

DS2 used to be a really good eater and now he just copies DS1 and I'm really worried that DS3 is going to follow as well.

It is crap and won't just take a few weeks as another well meaning poster has suggested.