My husbands eating habits are getting between us

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My husband has a physically exhausting job so I try during the week to cook him dinner. I don’t usually know what time he I’ll be home so I will make something earlier in the day and reheat it so we can sit down to a nice meal together. However when he gets in he serves his own meal, heats it up and starts eating without a thought. I told him I had waited on him so we could eat together but he’s always too starving to even get a second set of cutlery out the drawer. I don’t know why it bothers me so much but he always puts himself first when it comes to food and I’m other aspects too and I guess it’s starting to get to me. Has anyone got any advice? Whenever I bring it up he apologises but then does it again the next day. I just want us all to eat together nicely as a family rather than him just scoffing the lot before I even get a look in.

Have him call or text when he is leaving work. That way you can have the meal ready. He gets to eat ASAP and you get your shared meal.

This again?

Does he take his lunch? Get him to take something for the drive home.
Or tell him to serve and heat up two plates, not one.

Does he eat it all?

You could try practical tips as suggested above, to which I'd add getting the second set of cutlery ready before he gets home.

However, with respect, from what you've written this isn't about your DH's eating habits, it's about basic manners and courtesy. Nobody is so hungry that they cannot get a second set of cutlery out of the drawer at the same time as their own, but they can be inconsiderate and selfish enough not to. If he knows that you are waiting to eat with him and he just charges straight into his own meal without a thought for you, it's just bloody rude.

Stop cooking for him and waiting for him then.
IF you are very kind you could still cook, but leave his cold in the fridge. Presumably his great hunger will mean he is perfectly happy to eat it cold.

Ooops, just saw he IS able to wait to heat his own portion up. Definitely stop cooking for him.

This surely belongs in Relationships.

Leave him a starter (lump of bread or something) so he can calm down before helping set out things for a family meal?

Have you posted about this before? I'd just be more organised with meal times. Simple

Why should she? He should be able to wait a few minutes like an adult to eat a proper meal with his wife. He should have some respect for the effort she has gone to, to prepare the meal for them, and the decency to eat with her.

Have you posted about this before op? Is this the husband that comes in and eats it all while you are putting DC to bed?

Is this the lasagne husband from a thread a few weeks back?

Hi all no I haven’t posted about this before. This is the first I’ve heard of the “lasagna” story :). Thanks for all your responses so far. I stopped making him food and he just orders takeaway. I said to him if I wasn’t here to cook the meal you’d still have to wait for your food so I think this got the point across. I imagine he’ll still do it again though :(

Just divorce him then. Job done.