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What do you do when you need to eat cheap but DH refuses to eat ...

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mankyscotslass · 28/05/2007 16:39

most veg, but also refuses any pulses or tomato based things? He will eat potatoes, onions and cucumber. There are 5 of us, 3 kids and i am a SAHM, so really trying to stick to a budget....and he wont eat cheese or cheese based stuff either! I am going mad....i make stuff and he spends all his time picking things out, or just wont even let it past his lips cos he knows there are things in it he hates.....he knows he is being a crap role model but cant seem to get past it.

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expatinscotland · 28/05/2007 16:40

Try hiding it.

How old is he?

DD1 sometimes tries this on. She's nearly 4.

And if she doesn't eat what is given, she doesn't eat at all.

End of.

Pixiefish · 28/05/2007 16:40

soup? He couldn't pick anything out of it then.

Pasta sauce- just don't tell him what's in it

Pixiefish · 28/05/2007 16:41

FAB Expat- try that with your dh mankyscotslass

expatinscotland · 28/05/2007 16:41

Honestly, though, he can fix his own stuff then.

A budget is a budget.

MamaG · 28/05/2007 16:41

I'd refuse to cook for him, really I woudl.

expatinscotland · 28/05/2007 16:42

Sorry, I meant that as a joke, especially the 'How old is he?'

Scanner · 28/05/2007 16:42

Get him to cook and manage the food budget - he will either do a great job or be awful, but he should be more appreciative. Why is it your job?

expatinscotland · 28/05/2007 16:42

Ditto, MamaG.

Don't like it, don't eat it then, go and make your own stuff.

It's not a restaurant.

MamaG · 28/05/2007 16:43

Think you've got enough on with three children.

mustrunmore · 28/05/2007 16:44

Well, if dh doesnt like what I cook, he snacks later on bread and olives that he bought, then spends more omney on luch and tea at work. So it all comes from his money, and he cant acccuse me of overspending!

popsycal · 28/05/2007 16:45

tell him to make himself a cheese sandwich

pointydog · 28/05/2007 16:46

Ask him to write a list of things he likes to eat. Buy those things in. Leave him to make up his own meal in the evening.

What a big kid.

aDad · 28/05/2007 16:51

well, he's just got to get over it hasn't he?

Sorry not constructive of me perhaps, but it seems like he has to be prepared to change.

serenity · 28/05/2007 16:51

Cook for the majority and find some easy meal that you can do for him at the same time. Don't limit your meals because of him. My DS2 is a fussy blighter too - won't eat any veg except cucumbers and tomatoes, won't eat potatoes, doesn't like lumps of meat. When we have veg, I do a portion of cucumber and tomatoes for him. When we have potatoes he gets a few slices of bread If we do pasta and sauce, I leave him some without sauce, it's probably boring for him, but tough

However DS2 is 6, I'd assume your DH is in his late 20's/30's. Let him pick bits out - he's an adult, it won't kill him! How invovled does he get with the cooking? Can you set him a task of coming up with a few healthy, cheap meals that he will eat? Sit him down with a few cook books.....

Also, I hide a lot of veggies by cooking them up and using a hand blender to mush them. It's amazing what you can hide when there are no 'bits' I hate veggies myself, but I can eat almost anything if it's been mushed into a sauce first - my 'tomato' sauce which I use in mince, lasagne, on pasta etc contains tomatoes, onion, celery, courgettes, carrots and peppers and none of them notice....... Obviously you can't do a tomato sauce, but maybe something similar?

Flame · 28/05/2007 16:56

Eat what he's given or go without.

Money is an issue and he needs to stop behaving like a child.

popsycal · 28/05/2007 17:00

dh has a few things that he doesnt like - peas and kidney beans - but i still put them on his plate and ds1 always makes him try a mouthful as 'you might suddenly change your mind and like it - that happens to me soemtimes'

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 28/05/2007 17:04

I seriously think he ought to make an effort to eat the stuff you serve him, at least in front of the children, the main reason being, that if he won't eat good, nutritious food, neither will your children. They will pick up on his faddy eating habits and learn that they are acceptable, and you may gradually find yourself with 3 picky eaters who will only eat a limited range of good food. Does he really want to teach his children to do that? It's not a good lesson for them to learn.

sallyheartshapedstrawberry · 28/05/2007 17:06

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Idreamofdaleks · 28/05/2007 17:08

Get him to plan the menus for you all, on budget

DumbledoresGirl · 28/05/2007 17:14

I think he has to grow up tbh. My husband doesn't like fruit and vegetables either. I don't push the fruit so much, but I insist on everyone eating whatever vegetables I prepare. Dh too (although, I don't have to insist iyswim, he just gets on with eating whatever he is given). It is quite useful because when the children say "I don't like beans" (or whatever) meaning, "I don't want to eat them", dh always says "neither do I, but I am eating mine". My refrain is always, "You don't have to like it, you just have to eat it."

Is this budget self-imposed or something you and dh have agreed between you? If the latter, I think you need to make him see that this is all you can afford and he has to learn to eat stuff or else he is blwoing your budget. There must be some things he dislikes less than others. He has simply got to make more effort.

Failing that, do what I do (to get reclalcitrant children to eat): cook a load of vegetables and then puree them to make a sauce. Serve with pasta.

littlepicklesmum · 28/05/2007 17:15

Let him go and do the shop for 1 week, ask him to get what he feels would be substantial for the family and food he'd like to eat. I know it is hard not to interfer with what he buys, but it may give him an idea of shopping costs & how to come up with menu every day!
TBH if my dp doesn't like what he is given then he can make his own!

missgriss · 28/05/2007 17:24

My DH is a really fussy eater, so he cooks most of his own meals from his own money. If I ate like him I'd weigh about 28 stone and my arteries would be heaving.

Tell your DH to cook his own too

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mankyscotslass · 28/05/2007 17:24

Think that's the problem, he is quite happy to make his own! Just it's extra really on what i would have budgeted for!! Expat, pmsl,the kids dont get away with it, why should he?

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mankyscotslass · 28/05/2007 17:27

THe budget is an agreed one, we could manage on less if he just ate the same as the rest of us!! think it's all down to his mum really. She had bad memories of being made to eat her tea by her bully of a father, and swore never to make her kids eat anything they didnt want to .....so dh has turned out the way he has...although his sisters are ok...

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littlepicklesmum · 28/05/2007 17:27

Agree when you say kids don't get away with it why should he? Has he always been like this? maybe letting him cook for the family for a while would be interesting to see.

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