Im scared of solids!!!

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This will prob sound completly bonkers to most people but i hate meal times with my 10month dd. She generally eats really well but im always tense as im feeding her as im scared to death of her choking! Im not a panicky person, but the moment she cough's, my stomach lurches and i dive towards her to remove the food from her mouth (im really not mad). At the moment she's eating mostly the same as us and feeding herself with finger food. She often tries to shove too much in her mouth and when i try to take some out she will cry and then i panic even more about her choking. I have no reason for this irrational fear, but im worried that i give her a food complex. Its sounds so ridiculous, but its making me stress out ALOT!.

Please tell me there's someone out there that has also worried about this...and how do i get over it??

I used to worry about them choking but it has gotten easier the more DC i have had. I think most parents feel like this to some extent but if it is stressing you out so much you need to think of some ways to feel more relaxed.

Coudl you go on a first aid course and learn how to deal with choking?

You pwould probably learn somethings that will scare you even more but also how likely it is for your DD to choke (not very imo) and also how to deal with it on a practical level.

At least you would have the confidence that if the worst did happen you would have the knowledge to deal with it?

My HV is arranging courses at the moment. it may be worth contacting yours to see if they do them in your area too

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diving on her and trying to pull food out is going to make this more of an issue !

choking is different to gagging,and gagging is ok, my DD got good at bringing food back into her mouth for a second lot of chewing if neccesary!

sounds like DD is not having a problem eating and you need to try to relax and let her get on with it

has she choked before>

definitely second the suggestion to go on a first aid course

She hasn't choked before so i really dont know where this has come from. I think the first aid course is a good idea...especially if they can convince me that it really is unlikely that she will choke!.
I was so proud of her when she started eating solids with no fuss at all, i just never expected it to be me making the fuss.

Thanks for the advice, im gonna try to calm down a bit and tomorrow i will phone my hv about a possible first aid course. My friend lives in Dorset and they got offered them but here in Somerset, i havent been offered anything

If not contact St Johns Ambulance to see if they do anything.

I agree pouncing si more likely to make her choke!

I know it's hard but stay calm as much as possible

Where in Somerset are you? Chew Valley HVs do post natal groups that include a first aid session. If it is close enough maybe you could ask them if you could go to one?

Unfortunatly i'm over in Taunton and as far as i can find out there are no such courses in my area.
Post natal groups..what are they!!

My only source of info is generally my bf who is a very confident 2nd time mum and just finds it quite amusing that her usually calm, unpanicky friend has turned into freak at meal times!

Loads of thanks for everyones advice tho, it will definitly help xx