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is this an acceptable dinner?

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stitch · 19/04/2007 21:41

history:
kids always moan about what i make, dh worse. refuses to eat it. ds1 learning from him
recent history:
lost it at the kids big time when they chusked clean ironed clothes and dirty clothes and camera batteries out the toilet window. now grounded.

today
so i didnt feed them anything after school, going to ds1's tutors. they were starving when we got home from school. instead of giving them the chicken nuggers and chips theywanted, i made a broccoli onion and egg fried rice type thing, using boiled rice from the fridge, served with seekh kebabs from the freezer.

dh would refuse to eat this as it isnt a 'proper' dish. what would happen in your households?

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dyzzidi · 19/04/2007 22:02

Honestly my DH is a PITA with meals and has on occaision after I have cooked a perfectly good meal (which he has previously enjoyed) declared Oh I don't fancy that i will make myself something later. GGGRRRR. He is alway apologetic but it became a bit too frequent for my liking. I now rarely cook for him and only agree to do so if we have had a discussion about what we both want for tea. I figure I have more than enough to do than oander after him. I control what DD eats (16 months) as left to him he woul dkeep giving her cheese on toast because she loves that.

I do think its wrong the way he has spoken to you but as always its very easy to judge other people. Could you not suggest he makae a couple of curries at weekends and freeze them. Should he not find the meal you are about to prepare accaeptable he could then defrost his own and eat it. This may save you some arguing and make n=him make his own bloody dinner.

dyzzidi · 19/04/2007 22:02

Honestly my DH is a PITA with meals and has on occaision after I have cooked a perfectly good meal (which he has previously enjoyed) declared Oh I don't fancy that i will make myself something later. GGGRRRR. He is alway apologetic but it became a bit too frequent for my liking. I now rarely cook for him and only agree to do so if we have had a discussion about what we both want for tea. I figure I have more than enough to do than oander after him. I control what DD eats (16 months) as left to him he woul dkeep giving her cheese on toast because she loves that.

I do think its wrong the way he has spoken to you but as always its very easy to judge other people. Could you not suggest he makae a couple of curries at weekends and freeze them. Should he not find the meal you are about to prepare accaeptable he could then defrost his own and eat it. This may save you some arguing and make n=him make his own bloody dinner.

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stitch · 19/04/2007 22:05

thank you all of you. i feel vindicated now.
why do if feed them crap? coz at least they will eat it.
on top of this attitude, ds1 was a very fussy eater. he would happily go hungry, all day every day, until my mil wanted me to take himt o the doctors to get him 'injections' to make him eat. needless to say, i refused, he was skinny, but not unhealthy.
plus, i suppose my own attittude, call it lazy, call it lethargy, call it whatever. ive dug myself into a hole with the kids really.
dh, admittedly isnt as bad as he sused to be, but he has obviously managed to get the kids to learn his attitude.

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stitch · 19/04/2007 22:09

dh no longer a major pain now regarding this. he rarely eats with us anywyas. as a workaholic.
i tend to make him a curry on a friday, as hecomes home afte4r three tdays, and something on tuesday. one day on weekend he knows i expect him to eat at hismothers. and he will eat stuff like, for example, marks chicken kievs with chps, though i have to remind him to eat his veg as i do the kids!
those curries will last the week.

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FluffyMummy123 · 19/04/2007 22:09

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stitch · 19/04/2007 22:13

nah, babies are cute and cuddly and gorgeous

he's just a spoilt brat.

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Mercy · 19/04/2007 22:22

I do sympathise!

I often think (with ds) anything is better than nothing. As for dhs, well, they are old enough and ugly enough...

Make double and tell him to reheat his own food. Good luck!

admylin · 20/04/2007 09:22

my dh is asian and I can understand him not liking our style food, when you've grown up in India and eaten highly spiced foods all your life then our stuff tastes like nothing. I know they can get used to it, it's like getting used to using less salt I guess.
However, I spoil my dh and I cook a big pot of Dahl and rice and portion it and freeze some, the rest goes in the fridge and he serves himself when he comes in, in addition every other day or sometimes for 3 days I cook a curry (spinach, lamb, or potato curry) and that's his menu.
We eat our own stuff or sometimes the indian stuff depending on what we fancy. I can't eat it all the time the same as I xcouldn't eat pasta/italian every day.

dejags · 20/04/2007 09:30

snort .

DH would never in a million years refuse to eat something I'd cooked. I return that respect.

But then again, he would never expect me to cook his meals. He normally cooks.

The kids sometimes don't want what DH cooks as he does fancier stuff. Sod em if they don't want it, I certainly don't run around with alternatives.

They are allowed to help themselves to fruit if they don't eat their dinner/tea. That's it.

angmarie · 22/04/2007 08:09

i would go on stike for a week and let him do the cooking

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