My 12 year old DD is petite, her body is changing and she has a bit more shape now, she is very active (County Hockey, cross country runner, dancing) and has always has a really good appetite, eaten a good range of foods, and lots of it, never puts weight on as she has her dad's metabolism which just burns food very quickly. Have noticed in the last few weeks that she is emptying her packed lunch into the bin hardly eaten, when i asked her why she said that she is sick of sandwiches, so we started to make pasta salads instead, which she seemed to enjoy. but she is still emptying the other stuff into the bin. So she is surviving on a pasta salad, a smoothie and a bottle of water, from 8.00am to 3.30pm. She used to hit the biscuit tin,toast etc when she came home, but she doesn't eat anything now until we eat, which is sometimes 7.00pm. I notices today that she left most of her breakfast too.
She said to her step mum that her new friends at school say that she eats too much, and i think this is the reason that her eating habits have changed. I am getting really worried, especially as one of these friend eats absolutely nothing and looks really unwell to me. I am torn between digging deeper or just not commenting, don;t want to make an issue of it, but am worried that this is a bad path to follow. She weighed herself at the weekend (5st 11lbs she is about 4ft 10ins) which i have never encouraged her to do. I never get on the scales, and would never talk about weight or size, i enjoy my food and have always encouraged the girls to aswell.
Her younger sister is 9 and though she is the same height, only weighs 4st 10lbs, but obviously isn't at the stage that her body is changing, she also has an enormous appetite, she can quite easily eat as much as my husband if not more. I don't know if DD is comparing herself to her sister.
The ridiculous thing is when she was a baby i was always being told that she didn't put weight on quickly enough, she only weighed 17lbs on her first birthday! i look at her and she her blossoming into a young woman and she appears to be denying herself food to keep in with her new friends... any advice, don't know which way to turn.