This is more about manners than food, but what would you have done in this situation?

[Elasticwoman]

Having invited another family to Sunday lunch, I was busy cooking this meal for 9, when the other mother rang up about half an hour they were due to arrive. She asked if I would be serving carrots. I said yes. She said that her children didn't like cooked carrots so could they have them raw? I said carrots would not be the only veg on offer,and they need not have what they didn't want but she insisted so I gave in. At least, I prepared some raw carrot to be eaten as a nibble before the meal was served.
Her children were not tiny - towards the end of junior school age.

I'm with your family then Dizzy. Hosts should do their best to accomodate strong dislikes/allergies but that being said the guests should do their best to eat what's given without making a fuss - nothing more embarrassing than seeing a guest pick bits out of their perfectly good food. The company of your host and other guests is the most important thing surely?

It is interesting that some families believe the onus is on the host to provide what is required, not on the guest just to accept what they want from what is offered.

You can call the shots in a restaurant but not in someone elses home.

I have trained my kids to eat anything in other peoples houses because I think its dreadful rudeness to rebuff someones hospitality. Blimey cooked carrots are hardly an arduous experience for a ten year old are they ?!