Do you know what?/...I'm so sick of the f*cking veryday battle to get them to eat something half way decent that I feel like saying b*llocks to it all and feeding them shite!

[LadyTophamHatt]

Honestly I'm sick to ficking death of it.

Ds2 is currently getting into bed because of his refuse to eat a single spoon ful of bolognaise that had lumps ins. Tiny lumps of soft courgette and mushroom, all covered in bolognaise sause that he loves.

He's 5 yrs old FFS...he can eat lumps.

He was gagging and chockingand generally making a huge great deal of of it.

I took the plate away, after telling him to forget it a spit it out, threw it on top of the empty plates of Ds1+3 and broke it.

F*cking Great!

Havent read all thread but to Ladytophamhatt-

When dd2 was in Nursery I was so sick of her eating all their vegetables and not touching mine at home that I made a big fuss of going into to the Nursery kitchen to speak to the "Nice-cook-lady" to get some of her peas etc!
Next day at home when she screamed and yelled as usual at the peas on her plate I looked at her in surprise and said

"Oh but you know that I went specially and got the Nice-cook-lady's peas You like these, now eat up"

Dd2- oh well I like THESE ones!

Ate every single bloody pea!

Now..see, this is why turkey twizzlers were invented.

My eldest frequently holds his tongue out to be wiped for him!(we did it the first couple of times thinking it was a hair or something not any more, doesn't stop him though) Used to stand with his nose pressed against the kitchen door at nursery by all accounts -the cook loved him would no doubt eat it all too. Not any more!

This used to really piss me off - but it doesn't now because:

• I figure I've done my bit putting a decent home cooked nutritious meal in front of them. If they then decide not to eat it, it isn't my problem. I've still passed the good parent test . I rarely cajole them to eat any more - I just say " that's what there is, take it or leave it"

• They get teeny tiny portions so there is not much waste if they don't eat it. If they enjoy it they then get seconds...

• If they don't eat it, well it doesn't necessarily feel like a wasted effort; because dh and I get to enjoy the fruits of my labour

FGS. Reading this thread brought it all back to me. DS is now 15 and still turns his nose up at fresh salmon and tuna. He will only eat haddock in batter with chips. These days I just cook and whollop it on the table and say 'eat'. He moans and says 'oh god, not lasagne, you know i hate lasagne'. My reply is 'tough, coz it's what we're having'. He always eats one portion and clears off.

sooo many posts.....

As of tonight, the dinner I serve is all they get.

End of.

Full stop.

Take it or Leave it.

No yoghurts, no milk, nothing unless they eat at least some of their dinner....and some of the dinner that I say they eat, not just the bits they select.

I won't go hungry....they will.

Will report back later...I might be a little stressed though so prepare yourselves.

(Bozza, the 21 times thing applies to everything it seems, Ds2 always has veg on his plate. Everytime we have it....but never eat its. I worked it out the the other day that veg 3times a week for 5 yrs was something like 780 times.....21 times my arse! Grrrr)

I know Fio....and I love it

LadyTH - I'm with you on this journey

make sure you've got some wine in

23 wks PG capp......will grape juice do???

Been through this - sometimes would imagine going to the supermarket & just getting a bar of choc for every dinner Save time, money & shouting!!

Oh god ... the trauma, the trauma.

Can I confess? I once resorted to the line I swore I'd never say: "there's children in the third world who would LOVE to get food like this". To my credit, I didn't add the words "you spoilt brat" at the end though, so that's good, right?

Definitely veering onto the "my job is to provide the meal not to make you eat it" school of thought though. And I agree that eating all together at least means that dh and I enjoy a decent meal even if the kids just whine and push it around.

We do tend to give pudding regardless though, unless they genuinely haven't tried ANYTHING. Although reading this thread I am starting to wonder whether I shouldn't...

This is what we do in the Olive house:

On the daya I work, I do food I know they will eat as I quite frankly cannot be arsed with the battle am too tired and may combust - Birdseye nuggets, potato crocketts from M&S, sausages, chopped up veg and fruit, houmous & carrots, toast, picnicky things etc

On the other 4 days we eat together - dd1 is a pain in the arse but she gets a plate of what we eat, pokes it, and then just eats the accompanying bread. BUT it gets her looking at other food and she has slightly converted to pasta after about a year of trying.

If they don't eat tea it is taken away (usually with me swearing in the kitchen) and they can have a carrot or fruit or starve.

I don't pander anymore and have ceased to be arsed quite frankly, have finished with any concern!

May I recommend Dolmio sauce sachets for children? They have no bits, and you can get tomatoe, pepper or cheese versions and have rescued me numerous times when I have rushed in late from work to face starving faces and strops.

Yes, yes you can make your own sauce and freeze them in ice cubes blah blah, but I would rather read the paper if I have any spare time.

GoerginA, I have said those lines many a time too!

Do you know I'd love to get a copy of the Live Aid DVD and show the the starving children in Ethiopia.

Of course, I won't because although I might a shite parent half the time but I'm not going to be that bad. I'd bloody love to show them though...I really would.
Ungrateful little buggers.

Never seen those sauces Olive, where would I find them??
Not enough hours in the day to cook my own stuff and frankly I can't be arsed also, if they knew I;d made they'd never eat it, out of a tin or jar and they'd possibly eat it.

I have a 3-year-old like this.

So she goes w/o.

I have to give way to all sorts of demands all the time. We all do.

This is where she learns that that's part of life and if she doesn't like it, that's just too bad.

They are near all the pasta stuff, where you can find all the other (rank) pasta sauces .

They are ok, bit tasteless for me but I would add chilli flakes to mine if we were eating together.

Dd1 actually eats a whole bowl of spaghetti with these sauces as she cannot spot any flecks of green with her evil eye.

No salt in them, but have honey so sugar police may frown.

xx

Last night I had my dds moaning that I gave them DISGUSTING food.
It was fluffy mash, sausage rolls peas and sweetcorn. Ok they dont like sweetcorn but I put it on the plate in hope they will accidently learnt to like it but for its not like it was liver and onions.
I was in a rage for hours after.

they do 2 ranges, one that has bits, one without

make sure you get the right one.....

xx

Too tired to start fighting my cause tonight with a big proper dinner.

They're going to have pasta....but I am going to make some sauce myslef. Just need to ask MN for a recipe

OMG...I am one very happy mum!!

Asked Mn for a recipe, made it with a few extra vegs added, blended down as it was very lumpy...none of them would have eaten it with such huge lumps.

Served it up. Ds1+ 3 said it was lovely, Ds2 said "No don't like it" so I said "Ok thats fine, don't eat it"
"can I have some bread and butter instead?"

"No, this is your dinner, I've just made this for you, but if you don't want to eat it...thats fine"

Lots of maoning and wailing, "But i don't like it....please let me have soemthing else....it's horrible" etc etc etc for about 5-10 minutes.

I wasn't going to budge.

It was eat that or nothing.

He bloody well ate it!!

Ok I did take about 1/3 away because I have a bad habit of serving up dinners way too big for them. Ds1+3 ate that bit though.

All 3 finished the entire meal. Ds3 even scrapped his own, ds1's and my bowl clean for extra sauce.

The all had ice lollies for pudding as an extra treat

My problem is that DS is very thin and I look at him sometimes and worry about how it might be affecting him health wise. He has a consultant for his allergies (probably a large part of why he is so fussy) and I talked to her about his weight. She tried to reassure me saying that he was in the 50th percentile for his age but as I pointed out he is over the 75th percentile for his height. In other words tall and thin.

Anyway today he tells me he is rarely hungry and I believe him as there was no emotion being displayed and we weren't at the dinner table. I am sure we worry too much.

Oh well DONE, LTH ... where's the recipe? Might give that a go myself!

here you go Goergina

oh LTH I am so pleased

my afternoon was less successful.

far less successful