All you "everything in moderation, lunchbox contents don't matter" mothers

[broperponkers]

Do you tell your children to bully others who've got homemade bread and no chocolate?

Or do they just do it themselves?

the whole class needs a good talking to about bullying in general and dinner ladies should be aware of the situation and keeping a close eye on it. tell the head and make sure he/she tells you what will be done. dont be fobbed off

Nine year olds at my DS's school aren't allowed to have chocolate in their lunch box. Primary and Junior schools both have a "no" policy on them. Can't think why all schools just don't have that.

that's a good idea gigglinggloblin (great name btw) have you spoken to the teachers? I thought healthy food awareness was taught now? Do they do circle time or anything similar?

Write to the BBC anonymously and recommend the family to go on 'Honey, we're killing the kids'

sigh dinnerladies, my daughter recently got accused by another really not nice kid of spitting in her food. Instead of establishing whether this was actually what happened the dinner lady said to my dd aged 5 'how would you like it if i spat in your food?'

Agree with gigglingoblin - this isn't about food - it is bullying and should be dealt with as such.

Picking on any child for whatever reason is very wrong - and the school must address it.

Good Luck !

Not my child, no, it was me.

(Tis Hunker, btw)

Confused now ?

You as an adult or when you were a child ?

If when child I guess bullying was more aceptable (!) then - I know my school was not great on clamping down on it !

Me as a child.

Ahhhhh - are you scarred ?

No, not at all, just wondering what the response would be.

And interested because of the "oh my kids eat junk hahahaha" threads that have been on here lately - wondered if the "and lentil weavers are weirdos" attitude rubs off on their children and makes them bully others for not having Fruit Shoots and weird plastic cheese and ham snacks in their lunchboxes.

Yes, even my 3yo has had remarks made to him at preschool about the fact that he prefers fruit to biscuits. I don't think he gives a crap yet though, he is pretty egotistical and just thinks "well they're wrong, fruit is better".. I expect it will be more difficult when he's at school though.

I tease my mum now and ask her where the "proper bread" is when she gives us homemade

The preschool provides plates of fruit and carrot sticks etc, all very PC , but some of the kids bring biscuits instead. Ds1 doesn't mind at the moment - he's in love with fruit and veg because we're growing it on the allotment - but I'm sure when he goes to school the pressure will start. I imagine we'll have to find compromises.

Mine would just come home and tell me how much better the other mum's cooking was to mine! lol

I don't think my ds (5 - 6 next month) is interested enough in food to comment on what is in someone else's lunch box. he just wants to get on with playing!

For the record, during the holidays, when he was at "out of school club" (normally I aobidcate responsibility and get him school lunches - where they don't serve chips! ), he would get (homemade) white (sometimes brown - but dh prefers I make white) bread sandwiches, with either "chocolate jam" (Lidl "Nutella") or ham as a filling, together with a wee sweetie, a container of strawberries, a carton of fruit juice, a fruit shoot container of diluting juice, a cheese string and occasionally a packet of crisps.

Dh has been making up the pakced lunches - if it were me, I might have done tomato or cheese sandwiches and not given him a sweetie every day. But there again - I would have noticed we had run out of crisps over two weeks ago!

Ds does ask for "healthy" chocolate in the evenings from me: a square of the 70% chocolate I use to give myself my "chocolate fix"

I was surprised how much influence dd's classmates had on her when she started school fulltime, it's strange to see young children breaking away from the rules and values you have brought them up with so far.

And yes, this includes the contents of their lunch-boxes!

Greensleeves, you are right re compromises. This is what I have done and it's fine.

My ds (now 12)once came home and said no one would come to his house and play as they said his mum did not have any biscuits or crisps
They had asked him why he had no sweets or dunkers or crisps in his lunchbox and he said, he did not like them and that he made his own biscuits after school (which he did/does)

He managed to get a few kids round by virtue of having a new ps2 game before anyone else...
They all made biscuits
Ate them all
Helped make chicken burgers
Ate them all
The ps2 was untouched
(I had bought pizza and micro chips just in case )
the next day I had loads of requests for my burger recipe

broper I think those sorts of comments could be about anything tbh and sounds like the school needs to keep more of an eye and step in and stop it, whatver the situation.

hunkermunker:
"And interested because of the "oh my kids eat junk hahahaha" threads that have been on here lately - wondered if the "and lentil weavers are weirdos" attitude rubs off on their children and makes them bully others for not having Fruit Shoots and weird plastic cheese and ham snacks in their lunchboxes."

Yeah that's right I go home and say to ds2 "make sure you pick on any kid that doesn't have a bar of chocolate". WTF? Giving my kid some chocolate doesn't mean I would make him bully those who didn't. What a strange idea.