boy/girl ratio in infant schools, any opinions?

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My DS is 4 (started early) at a small private infant school. I have to say that i am delighted with the school in every way but i have one concern and would love some opinions on this.

There are 14 girls /7 boys in his class.

He as in nursery from 18mnths and was perfectly used to a girls but the minute he went to school he announced he does not like girls, when questioned he stated ok i just dont like the school girls.

Does anyone think its because with so few boys they have stuck together, or is this maybe just a typical age/developmental thing?

It is worrying me quite a bit as he is actually quite a gentle sensetive non boisterous boy anyway!!!

No experience but I think its an age/devt thing. Remember we used to be like this at infant school. His class probably picked it up from the older infants - that its not cool to like girls. Probably not occurred to him before and he did just say the school girls. So I'm opting for it being peer pressure.

DD has just turned 3 and has loathed boys for about a year now. if you talk to her you get lots of "I don't like boys, boys are always naughty" stuff. BUT she mixes fine with them at school, when chatting she talks about playing with a mixed gender group. TBH I think it's just part of the gender affiliation thing. Poor daddy gets it in the neck though.

Absolutely typical from my limited experience

DS1 is still happy to play with his "girl friends" that he had from before school but those AT school are strictly off limits. He was appalled to find kisses from them in his Christmas cards!!

He's also a gentle non boisterous boy too (most of the time!)

DS2 has been like this pretty much all the way through school - Y6 now though - he sent and received a Valentine this year (all say ahhhhh!)

But I can still guarantee to get a withering look if he's signing a card to a girl and I tell him not to forget the kisses.

Thank you so much ladies you have really put my mind at rest about this. I guess i just need to up the out of school play with the girls, thanks again!!!

My dd (11) has just 6 girls and 16 boys in her class. She likes (and always has liked) boys and girls and I would say she has an even mix of friends. My son however is 7 and there is about the same number of girls/boys in his class. He doesn't like girls although he used to play with the little girl across the road until they started school - I just think it's a case of "birds of a feather".

Ime, what children say and what they do can be two entirely different things! Dd is at a very small school, around 30 pupils. She 'doesn't like' boys but when I peek into the playground she's playing with them happily and from her conversations of what happens at school, there's plenty of interaction between girls and boys. Btw, when she was first at the school, girls were outnumbered about 2.1, now the positions have reversed and the boys are outnumbered.

16yo Dd1 gets on better with boys than girls. She has a couple of close female friends but has more close friends who are boys. She has two big brothers and she instinctively seems to know how boys tick.

Stace, in my experience, it seems more girls get sent to private school at the infant/junior stage than boys.