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Is anyone a veggie and their husband not? How do you make it work?

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oliveoil · 13/07/2006 11:33

Am thinking of going veggie again, or a half arsed version of - I like chicken and fish. Not sure what poncey mondern name they give people like me.

Anyway, just really gone off meat - bacon, sausage, mince, beef, gammon, lamb etc, all the lovely stuff we get from the farmer, not interested.

But dh is a meateater and looks in horror when I have dropped this into conversation. We sort of compromise anyway when he has steak [vomit emoticon] and I have grilled haloumi instead but the same potatoes and salad he has.

Anyone got any experience of this?

Ta.

xxxxx

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mustrunmore · 13/07/2006 23:16

If dh wants meat, he knows he has to cook it himself. Otherwise, he has to have veggie food.

laundrylover · 13/07/2006 23:33

Hat's off to you all but I'm so glad that we are totally veggie house.
I agree about rude veggies but also can't stand the type of carnivores who refuse to think about lamb coming from a lamb etc. I used to work on city farms and loved making the wimpy teachers cringe when getting the kids to tell me why we bred sheep. FGS they have our children's education in their hands!!!

Arabica · 14/07/2006 00:25

I think vegetarians and meat-eaters are equally capable of being both rude and precious about their food choices. I've met over-militant veggies, but I have to say, I've also met some dreadfully rude carnivores who can't empathise with other kinds of food choices. I don't eat meat but eat fish occasionally--DS is the same. DH eats meat but not at home, because the smell of it makes me feel ill; I wouldn't cook it for him.

EmmyLou · 14/07/2006 18:54

Amazed how many of you talk ablut your dp's and dh's cooking. Mine doesn't (although he can do the first part of a Sunday roast, ie: the meat and the roast potoatoes). Not only does he not cook, but he's also never home in time to eat with the rest of us so I have to cook AGAIN!

When I win the lottery (that I never enter...) I'll get a chef. Chef will cook meat dish and also do wonderful things with chickpeas so I can choose depending on how I feel that day. And then he'll wash up.

Even in my years as a fully blown vegetarian I was never rude about meat or especially squeamish as I've ALWAYS loved the smell of roast beef > and always said I'd eat meat again if you could buy organic/well cared for etc. It was the mass produced MRM of the 1980's that turned my stomach.

FrannyandZooey · 14/07/2006 19:06

Me and ds are veggie - dp is not. However we don't have meat in the house except on a very rare occasion when we get a takeaway and dp eats it from the box

I am very grateful to dp for appreciating my side of things on this. It is a big issue for me and while I would never criticise him or try to convert him, it would make me extremely unhappy to have meat in my fridge or in my oven etc.

At other people's houses I don't care at all if there is meat served up next to my food, but my house is my sanctuary and it means a lot to me to keep it vegetarian.

Dp does sometimes miss it, in which case he will get something meaty at work or while he is out. When we eat out or at other people's houses he always tucks in. I also cook a lot of food that helps him feel less deprived - meat substitutes like quorn, and strongly flavoured things like shepherds pie, bolognese, curry etc.

I do 95% of the cooking and shopping but he helps with preparing a meal, and will happily cook veggies stuff. He makes a lovely aubergine tagliatelle dish, and a mean egg, chips and beans as well

EmmyLou · 14/07/2006 23:19

Aubergine Tagliatelli dish sounds nice...

FrannyandZooey · 15/07/2006 07:18

It's a Delia recipe, Emmy. He makes it about twice a year if I am lucky, so don't be too jealous

Arabica · 16/07/2006 23:56

Mine does lots of cooking (smug emoticon).

threebob · 17/07/2006 00:15

My brother is a vegan and his girlfriend eats everything - they just moved in together yesterday so I will keep you posted.

laundrylover · 18/07/2006 15:05

3bob - reading your post made me laugh as I thought of your bro's gf eating everything in the house and then him like one of those spiders!!!

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oliveoil · 18/07/2006 15:09

oooh, forgot about this thread

I had a very enjoyable lamb curry (made with the ickle gamboling lambs ) on Saturday so dh thinks he can sway me.

I think I can be as rude as I like about steak, it looks foul, with all blood oozing on the plate [gag]

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puddle · 18/07/2006 15:30

I am amazed at how many people cook meat for their dps and kids despite being veggie themselves.

We all eat fish but not meat. My rule has always been that I don't eat it and I won't cook it (this is also my rule for cauliflower and celery).

I am hoping my kids don't rebel as teenagers and insist on cooking themselves bacon sarnies at home - I would find that very hard.

100Vicki · 19/07/2006 10:13

I was a veggie when I met my dh and it wasn't a problem then. Even though he enjoyed eating meat he was great at trying new food and the fact that I didn't eat meat didn't bother him. Now, 6 years and a ds later, he's decided that he's fed up eating Quorn products and "rabbit food" and is doing all he can to try to convince me to start eating meat again. It's causing so many arguments.

He eats meat all the time now and it makes me feel sick to look at it so I can't cook it for him. I cook my tea in the early evening and put ds to bed while he cooks his tea. We don't eat together anymore and we're just not getting on at all. Any suggestions?

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