BB fusses only with me (mum), not his nanny - help!

[choucroutegarnie]

My 14-month-old baby eats happily only when his nanny serves him his food. When it's my turn to give lunch or dinner (breakfast is fine) he starts screaming and crying until he gets what he wants - i.e. fish fingers, bread or pudding.

Perhaps I should add that I have no food 'issues' and am a happy eater myself!

Anyone experienced this? I'd appreciate your views. Thanks!

My 14-month-old baby eats happily only when his nanny serves him his food. When it's my turn to give lunch or dinner (breakfast is fine) he starts screaming and crying until he gets what he wants - i.e. fish fingers, bread or pudding.

Perhaps I should add that I have no food 'issues' and am a happy eater myself!

Anyone experienced this? I'd appreciate your views. Thanks!

My ds2 (2yrs)is a wee angel at nursery,he sits to have his dinner, uses a knife and fork, uses a normal cup(not a beaker)

I can tell you,he is not that good at home

Maybe he's realised the nanny will not be swayed by the screaming and crying, but mummy will be

If my ds2 was left to his own devices he'd live off fish fingers and peas.!!!

Not sure any of this helps but good luck!

IME, children generally behave far better for nannys, friends, other parents etc than they do for their mother.

DSs used to eat things at nursery (and now at school) they would never consider at home.

Thank God - someone else having the same problem. Ds (15 months) is much fussier with me than with his CM.

e.g DS always loved grapes - all of a sudden he won't eat any fruit off me (spits out grapes). Yet CM says - "oh he loves grapes doesn't he!!"

No answers for you - I just send all healthy food to the CM and take comfort that he is at least getting a good balanced diet 3 days a week.

It can get a bit stressful though. Yesterday ds got a jar for lunch (he almost never does as I tend to cook all his food) as I was fed up of throwing food away and I had a 'sod it' moment.

He ate about 1/2 the jar but clearly didn't like it much . Come dinner time though he wolfed down his dinner as he was pretty hungry by then. No stress for me as throwing away a jar is no problem.

Not a solution for every day but occasionally it relieves the tension.

Thanks! It helps to know I'm not alone! The books say 'never fight over food' and 'remove plate and ignore him' but after a few broken nights because he wakes up ravenous at 3am I was starting to despair...

Ah well. I'll definitely take up the jar advice. As you said, no feelings involved in those!

Don;t think I've once heard of a child behaving better for his Mum than for other people! Sounds perfectly normal to me!

Thank goodness I am not the only mum to be going through this exact same thing.

My son is 23mths, and pre christmas never had any trouble with eating, ate pretty much anything we gave him and slept like a log.

But had a really bad cold in Jan, that settled to his chest and he developed pneumonia, and since then he has hardly eaten a thing.

He goes beserk at the mere sight of his high chair, and just refuses to eat in it.

Would live on bits of toast and biscuits forever if I would let him, but have just started the zero tolerance plan, he went to bed a very hungry little boy tonight, and I have no doubt that I will be seeing him again in the early hours, My dilema is whether or not to give him a bottle in the night. If I do - he goes back to sleep but doesn't eat breakfast, if I don't he screams for hours and no-one gets any sleep.

Help.

OOps meant to say that this food issue is only with me. He eats much better at CM house and even for dh,(although still not anything like he used too) but just plays me like a fool and I get so frustrated spending all that time preparing food that I know he used to love, to just throw it away an hour later.

I try so hard to not let him know how upset I am, but he knows and boy does he play on it.