Get together with some girlfriends once every month or two for wine, nibbles &chat. We've been doing this for quite a while, with crisps/nuts/dips/breadsticks/olives/cheese & biscuits getting boring making a regular appearance. The unspoken deal is that we don't make too much effort, don't spend too much money, and definitely don't want to get into "one-up-manship". Any thoughts? I don't mind making stuff but don't want to make others feel they have to do more than pick up a few bits from the supermarket on their way home from work. Any thoughts? (All will have had tea, so nothing too substantial).