We are about to ask MIL and family to xmas at ours for the fist time. Last year was not much fun, they spent even more time than usual in the kitchen refusing offers of help whilst dd wondered why we had rushed her away from all her new pressies to sit waiting , and why we couldn't open any presents. Meanwhile ds was getting cabin fever and eyeing up all the chocs on the tree/ ornaments that looked interesting to play with/ bird cage to shake/ hostess trolley to check out the wheels on... aaaaghhh . Mil does the full turkey with all the trimmings quite formally and looks exhausted by the evening.In fact fell asleep last year.
So what should I cook ? (I don't even like turkey anyway)that I can pretty much prepare the day before. Any other tips for spending time with the family and breaking with tradition would be gratefully received