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... would you let your fussy 3-year-old eat ...

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swings · 13/11/2005 14:50

Dd's 3, a skinny minnie, incredibly fussy and limited in her tastes. But I've been tough with her and not given in to giving her junk. She eats regularly (and this is literally IT): broccolli, carrots, mushrooms, wholemeal toast and butter, crumpets and butter, Mexican beanburgers (Tesco - no other make will do ... sigh ...), potato waffles, a tiny amount of cheese, pasta in tomatoey sauces, apples, oranges, kiwi, banana, ice cream, chocolate muffins. And she drinks a couple of cups of milk a day.

So, fine on the fruit and veg. BUT protein intake, apart from milk and the Mexican beanburger beans that don't come out whole the other end, is zero. WE've tried everything including disguising meat / fish in every way possible. No go.

... until dp gave her a slice of salami and she became addicted. For a tiny eater she'll down 3 adult sized slices in a space of minutes. It's like seeing her transforming into a werewolf or something I am so unused to her really tucking into her food. As a vegetarian (who's keen not to push her into that choice unless she wants to later on, plus with a meat-eating partner) I always thought that that kind of processed meat was as bad as it got. Is that right? Should I keep giving it to her because it's at least meat? Or should I stick with my mostly healthy guns as I have done so far?

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Blu · 13/11/2005 23:17

DS also enjoys salami - and on the basis of that we gave him some parma ham - big success. Worth a try?

swings · 13/11/2005 23:18

Yes, pesto, that's a good idea. Plus chicken kiev.

I'm putting chirizo (?) on dp's shopping list to look out for tomorrow.

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puff · 13/11/2005 23:19

Do you have an independent delicatessen you can get to? There are some fab and varied types of polish sausage which are much less fatty than salami (also very garlicky - yum).

trefusis · 13/11/2005 23:21

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hatstand · 13/11/2005 23:23

I assume - you being veggire - you've tried pulses? eggs? and it might be a bit obvious but what about baked beans? Whole Earth ones have got no salt or sugar - just beans, tomatoes and apple juice to sweeten. Guilt free instant food

swings · 13/11/2005 23:34

Yes, I can get to a deli, thanks, ok, Polish sausage. And Mexican food that's a great idea too. Plus I like it!

Yes, I've tried all the veggie options in many different forms - TVP, eggs, tofu etc. etc. and yes, beans and pulses. I can sometimes get away with slipping a few lentils into the pasta sauce but not enough to really make a difference.

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Blu · 13/11/2005 23:38

Pasta is quite protein-rich. Especially if you get egg pasta. So is good white bread.

And I think she's right - Tesco's mexican bean burgers are definitely the best!

trefusis · 13/11/2005 23:41

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swings · 13/11/2005 23:43

Fab, thanks Trefusis.

Blu

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Tortington · 13/11/2005 23:44

well as your interested to ask, i meant regarding food. i give 'em what they get, if they dont like it - they go hungry til next time.

yip siree, i dun gone dun it on three pesky kids and it dun gone good.

alux · 14/11/2005 04:40

the gluten in the wholemeal bread and pasta counts as proteins too.

swings · 14/11/2005 10:37

I've heard that before custardo. And that's what I do with dd. But the list I posted is what she'll only ever eat despite what I give her. She never gets a pudding unless she's eaten something first, I never give her an alternative, she's just not bothered and will happily skip her meals for days on end. I know other kids like this who've had siblings who eat really well. Some kids are just fussy.

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Ellbell · 14/11/2005 10:58

Swings. I'd let her eat it. My dd1 was also incredibly fussy (and would only eat far worse things than yours... for a while it was hot dog sausages [retching emoticon] and Heinz macaroni cheese). She is now a great eater (at the age of 5) and likes healthy things, etc. We got over it by simply not fussing too much about what she ate, giving her what she liked, and occasionally trying her again with something new. Over about a year, between the ages of 3 and 4 it just 'clicked' and she started eating 'normally'. I'd just try to buy salami from a delicatessen, so that you reduce the amount of chemicals it has in it. The salt content isn't great, obviously, but if she's not getting a lot of salt elsewhere in her diet and isn't eating it by the cartload, she'll be fine. If she'll eat a little bit of cheese she obviously doesn't mind the taste too much, so could you disguise cheese elsewhere in her diet(e.g. by grating into pasta sauce)?

I do sympathise, because I have lost so much sleep worrying about my dd's diet, but it was only when I stopped worrying about it and just let her get on with it that she started eating better.

Ellbell · 14/11/2005 11:01

Sorry... Just to add that dd1's best friend at nursery school also ate next to nothing. Unlike my dd she was also really skinny and kept getting poorly (bad colds, chest infections, etc.). In the end the doctors agreed to that she needed her tonsils out. After the op, her mum says it was like a miracle transformation - she actually seemed hungry for the first time ever. Obviously if your dd is healthy this is irrelevant, but I thought it was worth mentioning.

piffle · 14/11/2005 11:06

I know how you feel as dd also will not eat meat, she loves falafel and hummus though
Just get the best quality salamai you can get I guess

GREATauntymandy · 14/11/2005 11:08

dont think she could eat enough to o/d on!!!

nooka · 14/11/2005 11:20

Your dd doesn't sound incredibly different from mine - except that mine loves cheese and will not ever eat anything in a sauce (or in fact with a speck of anything unknown on it). Again it's protein that I worry about, however she is now five, still eats a fairly restricted diet, but she is very tall and quite well built. Her brother on the other hand eats large quantities of pretty much everything, and is still the skinniest boy I know!

I would let her eat the salami, try for a good quality one (actually they shouldn't be stuffed with preservatives etc, as the smoking was the original preservative) and don't worry to much. She probably needs the fat (very important for little kid's energy reserves) and as the rest of her diet is good it shouldn't be a problem. My dd will also simply refuse to eat, and I'm of the "all the more for us" school of thought too. The only thing I can say, is that I can vividly remember being extremely fussy as a kid (went through stages of removing every single bit of onion from my food for a while for example), and I now enjoy pretty much everything, so as long as you go on offering, I do believe that she will gradually come around. My dd has at least stopped screaming if I put anything on her plate that she hasn't eaten before (oh, and the other thing we found is that she is more likely to try things away from home - especially with my mother)

bambi06 · 14/11/2005 11:30

go to turkish supermarkets or italian delis as they have huge amounts of gorgeous salami type sausages..my dd also adores salami and is in her element when we go to french farmers markets as they let hwer try all the different types of sausages..her favs are wild venison and garlic and wild boar also with garlic!!! infact garlic with anything but she is a real meateater..why dont you make your own kebabs with lamb or pork with garlic and herbs..they are so easy to eat and my dd loves eating them off the strick..thats the plus point as its a novelty to eat a sausage off a stick but you can always take the stick out after showing her them if you are worried about hurting herself with it.. you can even let her help you make them ..my dd [4yrs old ] can make meatballs and kebabs virtually by herself now and of course eats them because she`s made them..

swings · 14/11/2005 14:42

These are all fantastic ideas, thanks! I'm so relieved to hear that the garlicky cured meat is popular among so many little girls

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hovely · 15/11/2005 23:08

have you tried:
smoked mackerel
smoked salmon
ready made falafel (eg cauldron foods)
veg sausages
boursin garlicky cheese on crackers if she doesn't like toast spread
cheese straws and pastry generally

all things which my dd loves, some of them to my surprise

swings · 16/11/2005 13:48

hovely, she will eat Linda McCartney veg sausages actually.

I tried her with all the things you mention quite a long time ago. I'll definitely try them again though, thanks! Especially smoked fish and falafel.

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swings · 16/11/2005 23:21

Update: She loves chorizo. It transpires that she will only tolerate German salami. I got Italian, she didn't want to know. I've yet to try other suggestions but I've made a lovely big list. Thanks you all so much.

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uwila · 17/11/2005 16:30

swings, do you enforce set meal times or is she permitted to graze. I have a finicky eater (though she's only 2 1/2 now) and my lastnanny let her graze and it was murder trying to get anything down her becuase she knew she could have something else 20 min later. Six months after establishing specific meal times she is much much better. Though she's a bit opposite from your DD. She loves protein savoury things and fruit and veg are creations of the devil. But, as I say she's much better now and I thinkit's because she knows if she doen't eat what in front of her now she's going to be hungry for a long time 'til the next meal.

swings · 17/11/2005 19:09

No, uwila, she doesn't graze at all. I wouldn't mind even if she did sometimes as at least then she'd be eating something! In the morning at playgroup they have fruit around 10.30am but as she won't have had any breakfast usually except a kiwi or half a slice of toast I think that's ok. And after her nap she might have a small cup of apple juice or a toasted crumpet but really that's it.

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doormat · 17/11/2005 19:13

swings she obviously has a taste for savoury foods
I have a ds like this who prefers pork pies and sausage rolls to cake
I just see it as better than nothing tbh.

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