Okay to give DS (9) sandwiches for dinner?

[Sharkadder]

He has cooked school lunch which includes a pudding and he always 'makes the most of it' iyswim.

He has martial arts on Thursdays and sometimes mondays too ahd I've been giving him sandwiches for 'dinner', with carrot sticks etc, same as I'd do for a lazy lunch (reasoning that his main meal was lunch). Other days we have cooked food obv.

My mother seems to think I am depriving him massively (despite our diet of boiled egg and soldiers for dinner, switching to ready meals when we hit our teens), but it seems ok to me?

He can have fruit or whatever as well and when he gets back from martial arts he'll have a yogurt or something.

Thats fine!

I have been using those toaster pockets so at least I feel I am providing a 'hot' snack

What would be wrong with that - it's just the other waqy round to paked lunch and hot dinner.

You could give him some soup to go with the sandwich if you think he needs something hot / more substantial?

yeah, I used to do toast and beans or scrambled egg because hot food just seems so much more 'foody' but things are mega hectic atm and sometimes even firing up the grill in good time is beyond me

we've had this before
mine have school dinners
so tea after school is sandwiches, toast, soup
no second dinner round my way

mine had toast and beans this evening. he had spag bol for dinner at school.

I do similiar to you. My son has hot dinners twice a week - on those evenings he tends to have a sandwich or boiled eggs, jacket potato or something-on-toast. 2 hot meals a day isn't necessary....

bigTilly I think on some level I think dinner = hot cooked food. The younger DCs have only just started having lunch at nursery, I always used to do a big dinner for everyone which DS1 mucked in with but that's really difficult when DS2 is sleepy and DS1 has martial arts and DH is working late and and and. But you'd've thought I'd told my mum he was eating pencil shavings :/

when I work my ds has:
breakfast
school dinner
at afterschool club a 'snack' which is invariably beans on toast, cheesey pasta, soup and a sandwich
people then take their kids home and give them another dinner
mine get a drink and into bed
since when was beans on toast or a jacket potato or bowl of pasta a snack
and we wonder at the obseity epidemic

You are so right Compo.

A lot of the kids at the DCs school are from very low-income families and I know from a friend who works there as a TA that for many of them school food is their main source of nutrition, so I don't have an argument with big 'snacks', especially as the after school club is subsidised here too.

But parents (me!), need to adjust accordingly.

Totally ok, Shark!