since my kids dont eat, i have decided not to make meals for them

[badmom]

title says it all really. after throwing away hundreds of pounds worth of food, not to mention the effort involved in making it, and the stress of the negative interaction, i have decided to let them go hungry if that is what they prefer.

after school today, asked them if they wanted pasta, or cheese sandwichs. the sandwichs they said. dc1 ate 3/4 of it. dc2 ate only the cheese, and dc3 refused to have it, and had a bottle of milk instead. thats all they have eater, other than the haribo sweets their dad brought back from work for them.
at breakfast i had to literally hold the cup up to their mouthss to get them to have some milk, as i thought that two bites of toast werent enough.
so shoot me down in flames. i have myself just had a gorgeous poached salmon with steamed veg, and homemade bread meal. give me a reason to continue spending time, effort and money on trying to feed my kids nutritious meals when they reject it all.........

Thank you badmom for posting that. I have been in a real dilemma this week about DS1 who eats like a sparrow and will not try anything new. He has had sandwiches for 4 meals in a row these last 2 days and hasn't made any comment about it at all.
I must admit sometimes threads on eating make me more miserable about his eating rather than inspire me to try another tactic (think I have tried most of them by now) and it is very hard when people write that their children will eat anything because they did this or that.
Thanks

blu, dp is several problems rolled into one. dont even get me started on him. what can i say, except that the only support i get from him is that he pays the mortgage, and allows me to use his card for online shopping. otherwise, its only aggro from him. and he is just as fussy an eater as well. i once threw away a mutton chop curry which he wouldnt eat coz he didnt like, and we couldnt eat coz it was too spicy for us, coz he likes it spicy.
he's just a git.

I have always done cooked lunch cause I have more emotional energy at lunch time so it bothers me less if they dont eat what is offered. Also a good tip is to make stuff in baulk and freeze it (cottage pie, chicken casserole etc)'The Dinner Lady' by Jeanette Orey has lots of ideas for healthy food designed to tempt picky eaters. Then when you have to chuck it away the slaving over it is but a dim memory. Mine only get one cooked meal a day, plus nursery tea which is boiled egg, french roast or sandwiches etc. Don't worry so much if they're hungry they'll eat.

How wonderful to read that you all have the same prob. Tonight mine all ate chicken and chips but I have to do two sets of chips... one dark and crispy for dds 1 & 2 and one set white and soggy for dd 3. ... Not to mention chicken and salad (with potatoe salad for me and dh). And this is an easy night. The rest of the time they look in the fridge and what's right for one is terrible for the others... one likes mozarella cheese the other only Philly, the third not cheese but ham, I have at least 6 types of bread, croissant, pitta, wholemeal, chapata, to satisfy us all.

Don't tell me... I've brought it all on myself..

so, "youll eat what youre given" is a line not heard often in your household then dolally?

Good on you badmom, I have a similar theme going and I no longer cook I just feed. Sandwiches, yogurts anything fridge friendly. I am sick to death of pandering to the masess. If I do cook and I love to..thenif you don' like it... TOUGH bread and jam will suffice and there is a fruit bowl too.

Dd can be a very picky eater too .shes only 20 mnths but I can see the future already and I aint gonna stress. Im not a great eater on the whole and liek to eat little nad often and I think shell be the same. shes as skinny as I am too. She does however tend to eat a good breakfast (usually porridge so I tend to worry les sif she doesnt eat lunch or dinner). As long as it healthy and balanced and they eat it who cares if its hot or cold anyway?
Better a cheese sandwich than TurkeyT and smash anyday

Well, "you'll eat what you're given" is often heard in our household (not that it has much effect cos they know i'm a pushover) However I won't cook two different dinners .. they just have to make themselves sarnies from the 6 types of bread that there are in the freezer....

I know, I know... I'm a plonker

Badmom,you go girl!
In our house,as I cook,dinner is what I decide it will be.No pandering to whingeing kids,no bloody way!
If they don't like what I serve,the alternative is absolutely nothing. Similarly,dd gets one glass of watered down apple juice a day.The rst of the time it is water.
I love to cook and make fresh food every night (or do a batch and freeze.)

There are no biscuits,sweets,chocolates os fizzy drinkshere,not because I am an uptight so and so but because I don't like them,and as I said,I'm the cook and I alone decide what goes into the shopping basket each week.

Moondog, does your dh/dp ever cook?

He's not here much edam (worksaway!) and no he doesn't cook,but he's a fab cleaner/washer upper/general factotum!

Oh and it may not last forever, my ds was a fussy baby and is now quite adventurous (especially with things that I am eating). I think that dd has a bit of a texture thing, but she is gradually starting to try things (she has sat in the past with a completely untouched plate of food). I was brought up with the "all the more for us" line used frequently, but was still very fussy (my poor mum) - the amount of things I love now that I saw being happily eaten by my brothers and sisters and refused. What was I thinking about! I found all those make your food look good/disguise it as something else really frustrating, as I'd then make something special for dd, and she would still refuse to try it (she is particularly suspicious of anything mixed up). But give her a lump of cheese, plain bread and some cut up salad and she's fine. It's just a bit monotonous - I certainly wouldn't eat like that!

OK moondog, so your control of the kitchen is necessity, not a thwarted urge for world domination, then?

Just read your post and couldn't decide whether to admire, sympathise, or be very scared!

Edam..yopu've got me wrong!!
I love cooking,spend masses of time doing it,read cookery books nearly every day,invite people around all the time.I'm not joyless,I just know that I cook lovely tasty food and as I said,if they don't want it,there is nothing else!

I don't really see how it becomes an issue.I'm the grown up,I've got the money,ergo I decide what the agenda is.