Well ladies and gents I think it's time mamadiva left the building...

[mamadiva]

Not that anyone will notice but I think it's time for me to call it a day!

I love MN and have been on here for nearly 2 years but now I am afraid to say it's becoming like every other parenting site out there.

I for one am not into the brainwashing tactics and I am sick to the back teeth of people dragging up posts and blatantly lying about what was said. I am not willing to be told what I can and cannot think anymore it's just not me

So to all of those I have became virtual acquaintances with goodbye.

I will miss MN, the banter, most of the people on it and the help it has provided me with over the past 2 years but I cannot become part of the herd and I know that is'nt accepted here nowadays so...

What's happened?

what? why?
eh?

Long story.

Just not worth the hassle anymore

don't flounce.
sleep on it.

Don't know what's happened mamadiva but I'm sure it'll all be forgotten really quickly. Do what dragon says and sleep on it.

I'm just so fed up with peopel saying things like oh well you are entitled to your opinion but you should'nt be saying things like that?!

Makes no sense total censorship and brain washing if you ask me.

I don't want to leave but feel I have to because I am getting so rowled about it and it is just soo stupid!!!

I might see how I am tomorrow but doubt it will change TBH

Thanks for posting though

oh i see what it's about.
hey, there's plenty more of use who don't click on the threads you are talking about.
not because of censorship but because that's not why we're here.

really, don't get so wound up.
mumsnet is here to offer support.
if you get in trouble on some unrelated thread, i don't think it makes any difference when you are in need of advice or support.

get some sleep. take a break from mn. then come back refreshed. i do it regularly.

Mamadiva. Really no need to leave as a result of the other thread. People have very strong opinions on that particular topic and the thread was bound to end in tears. For what it's worth I hope you don't leave.
I won't change my opinion on some of the posting that went on, but that's my choice just as it's yours to criticise my posts as you see fit.

Mintchocaddict it's not because of what you said.

It was just the general attitude on that thread and others.

I just don't think you can express an opinion on here anymore without being flamed if you go against the grain in the slightest.

I am an opinionated person I always have been and that is why I joined MN in the first place but now it has all changed you can't be opinionated anymore.

Oh I don't know... need sleep and a break from MN I think

Will go to my bed maybe I am just in the worng frame of mind tonight [hopeful emoticon]

Goodnight ladies and again thanks.

I'm extremely opinionated and I'm not feeling compelled to leave

nobody was complaining about the expression of forthright opinions, MN is as lively and robust as ever.

But vile insensitive cruel remarks like the ones on that thread have nothing to do with debate, they are just shameful and, IMO, not legal (I don't remember your posts specifically, but I know why that thread was deleted and it was absolutely justified)

if you feel you need to go, that's sad, but don't pose as some sort of martyr for free speech because it ain't so.

mamadiva, I have seen why you think you need to leave, but I think you're wrong in saying that opinions generally can't be expressed. I'm sorry you're upset - I'd given up on reading that thread before it was pulled, but saw the bit that's bothering you - and I'd urge you to think again in the morning.

It's just a message board.

To be perfectly honest, I got very close to leaving Mumsnet about a year ago. Some unnamed Mumsnetters who knew a little about my family history (never give too much of yourself away on MSN, I no longer have MSN!) started to question my opinions with statements like "I think you're not making sense because of what's happening with your brother" and "Your arguments don't make sense, are you ok?" They were extremely passive aggressive in tone and deeply upsetting at the time. I couldn't disagree or hold an opinion without someone questioning my mental stability.

The same thing happened to custy just after her mum died.

And then I'd notice that if I disagreed with a Mumsnetter, all of a sudden all her friends would come on and tell me how unreasonable I was. They'd pick holes in everything I said, drag up past quotes from years ago and they did everything possible to make me feel shit.

Those people have now left and I feel so much better posting on Mumsnet. But at the time I took a sabbatical for a few months. I really needed it and it helped me to get some perspective on it.

Basically Mumsnet should be used to give advice, to seek advice and to enjoy. If you are no longer enjoying Mumsnet then you need a break. Mumsnet is my escape from reality and when it is no longer enjoyable, then I will turn off the pc. Because there is no point having to look for an escape from your escape.

So go away, get involved in real life again, don't go near the pc. Things will be different when you come back, that I can promise.