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I’m clearly hated so see ya

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SpringPop · 22/04/2023 15:27

I’m off too… been here bloody years.

I’ve posted on a thread lately that has left me in a very dark place.

I feel hated. I’ve upset people by words I had no idea would trigger people. I’ve had a pile on by people. I think it’s just not for me anymore.

I felt like I was one of them but because I didn’t say the correct words (well meaning) people never forgave me. When I returned to counter my argument and defend my thoughts I made it worse.

people have been so personal about my way and my life and just me in general that I’m left doubting who I actually am.

what even is the point of my existence?! I’m sure most people on that thread would rather I was gone from this place.

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Mamette · 22/04/2023 15:30

I have no idea what the argument was about but seriously- no one here knows the first thing about anyone else and there’s lots of people just chomping at the bit for a fight.

Just take a break, name change and come back when things have faded a bit.

pictoosh · 22/04/2023 15:35

You're being very dramatic. I think if you feel this upset about a bunch of adversarial twats who love a barney on mumsnet, it's a good choice to stay away.

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SpringPop · 22/04/2023 15:35

It was a thread about eating disorders and I’ve just had enough of this place. And social media in general actually. I’m not convinced it’s good for me. I get defensive very easily and feel need to defend my opinion when someone tells me I’m doing it all wrong. then it all goes pear shaped and I’m left doubting if I even have a good bone in my body.

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pictoosh · 22/04/2023 15:36

Mumsnet cannot help you with that. Good luck. x

SunshineGeorgie · 22/04/2023 15:37

People don't hate you....user names are not that memorable

Beamur · 22/04/2023 15:41

Take a break but try not to take it too personally.
Most of the people who post on MN are fine but there's a large minority with big opinions who enjoy an anonymous forum to take swipes at people.
We're all a bunch of randos really.
Take your validation from people whose judgement you value.

gamerchick · 22/04/2023 15:41

I have no clues who you are or what you've said OP. But if posting on here is causing you that much distress then just take a break for a bit.

determinedtomakethiswork · 22/04/2023 15:43

Is the thread in AIBU? That place really attracts some nasty people.

Kvetching · 22/04/2023 15:46

I don’t know flouncer’s corner was still a thing. 😂

Seriously, does anyone notice posters’ names nowadays on here? It’s not like when MN was smaller. Just stop posting if it’s giving you angst, no one will notice.

TooBigForMyBoots · 22/04/2023 15:48

SpringPop · 22/04/2023 15:35

It was a thread about eating disorders and I’ve just had enough of this place. And social media in general actually. I’m not convinced it’s good for me. I get defensive very easily and feel need to defend my opinion when someone tells me I’m doing it all wrong. then it all goes pear shaped and I’m left doubting if I even have a good bone in my body.

It isn't good for you @SpringPop. Switch it all off and enjoy your break.Thanks

flapjackfairy · 22/04/2023 15:50

oh @SpringPop so sorry you feel so attacked. It has happened to me once or twice as well.
But it doesnt say anything at all about you because people only get a snapshot of who you truly are and some people are quick to put others down and dont even think about the person on the receiving end.
Whatever you decide I wish you well and suggest you just put it out of your mind . Take care x

Truestorypeeps · 22/04/2023 15:51

Haters gonna hate. There's many ways to skin a cat and just because someone disagrees with how you go about something, or your thoughts, or your feelings, it doesn't mean they are right and you are wrong.

I doubt you set out to upset someone. Some people are very easily offended and aren't quick to forgive as they are rather over dramatic, it gives them something to fill their days.

You have to take this place and the comments on it with a pinch of salt. I've said something which I found funny but others did not and someone called me 'nasty' ... I honestly just thought, how ridiculous and moved on with my life. Tbh, I got an alert that a couple of people replied but I could guess what they were going to say, in as much as it wouldn't be positive, so I chose not to go back to that post to read them!

Whoever is overly critical of you and your life, simply is not happy in their own, or they are just a horrible human being, in both cases, you have to just ignore. They are poking at you trying to get a response. Don't give them one.

Some time out, or time just reading and maybe commenting to help others and not writing about your own situation sounds like a good idea. Don't continue to do something which is negatively affecting your mental health.

From reading your post here, you seem very kind and considerate and I for one am very glad that you do exist! Please keep it that way!

Truestorypeeps · 22/04/2023 15:53

For what it's worth, I'm also off social media. Only have WhatsApp and Messenger for close friends. Glad to be rid of it!

TheShellBeach · 22/04/2023 16:03

SpringPop · 22/04/2023 15:35

It was a thread about eating disorders and I’ve just had enough of this place. And social media in general actually. I’m not convinced it’s good for me. I get defensive very easily and feel need to defend my opinion when someone tells me I’m doing it all wrong. then it all goes pear shaped and I’m left doubting if I even have a good bone in my body.

I hid that thread, OP, because there were some cunts on it
I'm sorry you're feeling upset.
When I feel like this on MN I take a couple of weeks or months off then I name change and return.

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