Attention from men : what's wrong with being invisible?

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Inspired by another post - I am curious.

I see so many posts mentioning becoming invisible as you get older.

I always feel somewhat invisible anyway! That's normal to me. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive or anything, but I don't have men staring at me when I walk into a restaurant.

Am I missing something? Is behaviour towards me going to change one day soon and I'm suddenly going to understand what everyone meant?

Looking for sharing of experiences.

If you are young and deemed attractive by men you get a lot of attention generally from men. When it’s stops as you age it’s either devastating or a blessed relief depending on your personality.

If you’re never had it you’ll never miss it and be fine either way!

I'm 58 and was looking forward to this invisibility.

However I have lost 52 kilos & I'm naturally quite smiley - I'm getting a lot more nice attention from men. Not in a flirty or sleazy way but in a more seen way. A bit more engagement wheeras when I was heavier people didnt treat me negatively, but now strangers are more likely to talk to me, say hello on the street, engage in some way etc.

Men of all ages too - silver foxes to men in their 30's.

If I could pick a superpower I’d choose invisibility. Since I can’t, I’ve honed the ability to grey rock in many situations.

I was really disturbed @Treetopssofee at your thread and the prospect of becoming visible.

It's an interesting phenomenon because it does have up and downsides. I think I'm relatively invisible. Pretty unremarkable looking and never been one for lots of makeup etc. I've suffered very little street harassment for example. And I remember popping into Tesco once heavily made up and definitely being aware of different reactions around me. Not sure how I feel about that. And was always rubbish at getting served on bars.

I do find a lot of people give way when I'm crossing the end of a side road though. General politeness or something else? I also don't find an epidemic of men refusing to cede my path to me on the pavement. I have a half formed theory that it's as much about the unconscious signals you send out/body language. Most people aren't looking for a confrontation; if you signal you are going on x side then they'll mostly acquiesce.