I feel the British definition of rape limiting it to a penis is not fair to victims. This is especially the case in women on women violence and in what would be called statutory rape in other countries. I don’t feel it’s fair to victims of something like an older woman sleeping with an underage boy or a doctor and a patient to tell them this wasn’t rape because there was no penis involved when arguably someone had sex with them without them being able to consent. Surely doing this silences victims and erases their experiences?
when I say this to British people I get told no this isn’t right but I do think countries with statutory rape laws are more protective to victims in these cases.
It’s worth noting that Scotland actually reformed its law in 2009 to include penetration by any body part or object in its definition of rape, so there’s precedent within the UK itself for the kind of change I’m arguing for.
i would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.