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Coroner extends heartfelt sympathy for ‘loss’ of wife murderer

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LadyBlakeneysHanky · 09/01/2026 09:08

Rosemary Jobson was shot dead by her jealous older husband Robert in Lincolnshire in July 2023, after beginning divorce proceedings.

Ar the time of the shooting Jobson (who had refused to sign divorce papers) had been arrested for assaulting Rosemary, & bailed on condition that he neither contact her nor return to their home. Instead he borrowed a shotgun from a friend, bought a car Rosemary would not recognise, & waited in it in a neighbour’s driveway for her to return to the matrimonial home to collect clothes - upon which he shot her twice, the second time at short range, before killing himself.

His own guns had previously been removed from him by police after Rosemary expressed concerns about her safety after ending their marriage. Rosemary’s daughter, at the inquest, described Jobson as old fashioned and demanding, and Rosemary as losing confidence during their marriage, & subject to verbal abuse from Jobson.

The inquest took place this week. At it, Jobson’s daughter described him as hardworking and a very proud man. The (female) coroner stated ‘I extend my heartfelt sympathies to each and every one of you for the loss of Rose and Robert’.

’Loss’.

‘Loss of Robert’.

Car keys are lost. Pets are lost.

Rosemary Jobson was murdered, by a controlling violent brute. And yet his self-inflicted death, in the course of carrying out this horrible murder, in the eyes of an official of the state, is a ‘loss’.

Expressing sympathy for bewildered and no doubt shocked relatives is one thing. Dressing up femicide as ‘loss’, and equating a female victim’s murder with the cowardly suicide of her killer, packaging them both as ‘loss’ to be mourned, is a completely different matter.

What hope is there that murderous violence against women will be treated seriously when this attitude is so endemic in the justice system that it goes without comment?

I have not seen even one newspaper draw attention to this shocking wording and what it reveals.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 09/01/2026 09:13

Scratching around to try and understand why that wording seemed appropriate… I suppose that his daughter has lost her father in appalling circumstances.

But I couldn’t agree with you more. It should be ingrained that you never refer to the killer in the same terms as the victim.

LadyBlakeneysHanky · 09/01/2026 09:31

If I were the coroner, I would have expressed heartfelt sympathy to Rosemary’s children for their loss in such devastating circumstances; and, to Jobson’s daughter, gratitude for her participation in what must have been the very distressing process of the inquest.

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ProfessorBinturong · 09/01/2026 11:47

I hope they threw the book at the friend who lent him the gun.

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