Do u want to be a single mum?

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There no type of judgement that lies within the program that u can’t be a single mother by sperm banks. If you read on single motherhood for sperm insemination they instruct certain ways to be prepared and understanding what the situation is. There’s no judgement here. Possibilities are endless.

I don't understand

I'm not entirely sure what you're asking. But, as a single parent, I think anyone planning a pregnancy via sperm donation, knowing they will be a single parent, needs to fully research what that is like.

My youngst child have 2 donor children friends in class. The donor children aren't different from other single parent families.
Another of her friends has to mummies being both egg/sperm donation.
It's not a big deal tbh.

I had a lovely dad. DH was a darling. I became a single parent after his early death.

I know most single parents are single because the father has let them and their kids down.

But dads are important. I think that deliberately setting out to have a baby without a father is selfish. Fair enough if it happens due to the failures of the man but depriving your child of any father, good or bad, is unfair to the baby.

But I think it's easy to underestimate the importance of a father figure. Sons of single mums are massively over represented in crime stats aren't they?

A previous poster has said it better already, but too many people think about their rights to a child and not enough about their child's right to have two parents, a father and a mother.

It is inherently selfish.

The evidence is there that children from single parent households are negatively affected, throughout their entire lives. You can't love them out of it. Throwing money at the problem won't fix it either.

Obviously in cases of death of a spouse or abuse leading to divorce, this is completely unavoidable, and we should have far more support for those families than we currently do.

But to conceive a child knowing they will never have two loving parents, and knowing they are going to be hurt by this decision, is a very good indication that person is not fit to be a parent. No good mother would knowingly and willingly hurt their child's life.

I would tend to agree with you, but in an ordinary single-parent household (the ones the stats are all about) there's likely to be trauma over abandonment, violence or bereavement - which maybe aren't going to affect someone conceived by sperm donation in the same way.

Even amongst "traditional" single parent families, I would hazard a guess that having your father beat up your mother or leave her for another woman likely predicts worse outcomes than having a loving father who is tragically killed.

It's likely an innate evolutionary thing whereby young males need to learn from a father figure.

My boys were still at primary school when their dad died of cancer. We had lots of support. DS2 grieved and slowly recovered. DS1, who was extremely closr to his dad, essentially crashed and burned. First he dropped going out, seeing friends. Then he stopped going to school. I tried every fucking thing. He hibernated in his bedroom. I'll never be able to listen to certain albums again.

By the time he was 12 I talked to him about suicide. I was right. He said he wasn't going to actually do it, but he thought about it all the time. He eventually agreed to counselling, which helped.

My older son is a grown man now and he still bears the scars. He carries sorrow and fury. It grieves me.

Sorry this is long, but losing a really good dad when you're a child can be devastating.

The evidence is there that children from single parent households are negatively affected, throughout their entire lives. You can't love them out of it. Throwing money at the problem won't fix it either.

Is it that they are raised by a single mom or that they have been abandoned by their dad?