Bringing a newborn to university lectures

[Nimnuan]

I'm on a part-time university course (apprenticeship) and expecting a baby in the next few weeks. I'm not intending to take a break as any break would mean a year's delay. All classes this year my baby will be under 26 weeks old and breastfeeding.
I want to bring her to lectures with me because arranging childcare and expressing breastmilk will be much more difficult at such a young age and given the university's atrocious arrangements for expressing. Obviously if she cries or is disruptive I'll have to step out into the hallway.
I've just been told that I'm not allowed to bring my newborn to lectures because it would be a "contravention of rules and regulations". I've asked to be told which rules and regulations but haven't heard back yet.
Can you give me any advice about how to argue my case?

What is the childcare option?

Not relevant to this discussion.

Do you also have a flippant comment to my previous statement?

I really hope it isn’t your husband, and I suspect that the fact it is your husband probably explains why you are so desperate to bring your newborn with you.

It's not.

Why don't you want us to know the whole story?

Because it’s distressing and casts a very very different light on why the op is very understandably desperate to bring her newborn with her

But he will be alone with the toddler op every week, which is also something to consider

You're making a lot of assumptions.

Will entirely depend on your baby's temperament. I could absolutely not have done this with my DC as a young baby

Agreed.

My point is… I get it now.

Newborns should only be in car seat for a short time, when really little recommended 30 mins as their blood oxygen goes down

I think this sounds so hard op. I really hope you can get through the first few tough weeks and then it all gets more manageable. You sound really determined (and realistic, in answer to some of the comments on here). I have no suggestions but I 100% hope you find a way. I hope your baby is contented, lets you study in relative peace and realises what a excellent mum she has. Good luck

It’s a long time ago now, but all of mine would have been absolutely fine in a sling and breastfed on demand. They were so peaceful that they often went unnoticed, sometimes even by me.😳

They would certainly have been far less disruptive than a lot of the young ‘adults’ I’m on a course with at the moment.

I never made much of a performance of parenting though, they just came everywhere with me when they were tiny and that was that.

I can’t stand Stella Creasy for lots of reasons, but the fuss that ensued when she took her baby into the debating chamber was unwarranted imho. I hope you manage to find a workable solution. It all sounds very stressful.

How are you going to cope with the exhaustion of night feeds and lectures (and work)?

None of which you’d be doing during the 4 hours the baby is strapped into the car seat on a cold winter’s day.

Good grief - so now you think you can get up on a cold dark winter’s morning and take a new born baby on a rush hour train for maybe an hour, walk from the station to Uni each way and do the return journey at after 7pm? You’re bloody mad!

Or desperate

She doesn’t sound ‘determined’ in the way you think, nor does she sound like an excellent mum. She sounds like someone who’s putting themself way before the needs of a tiny baby. If you think what she’s proposing - a newborn be(no stuck in a car seat for 4 hours a day, stuck in a pram at the back of a lecture theatre, squashed into a baby sling whilst its mother is bent over making notes in a lecture theatre for 9 hours makes someone a great mum you’ve got a very odd impression of parenthood,

In what way?

My husband has a drinking problem, curledup14 found out our about it from another thread. She thinks I'm worried about leaving her with him.
It's not true, it would be my mum looking after the baby if I can't bring her with me to uni. That's why childcare isn't relevant to the discussion. It's sorted.
He'll be at work, as it's a Monday.

@Nimnuan and you thought it would be a good idea to have a baby to juggle with your work/studies and your husband’s drinking

Yep. And there we have it. This is why I said this is not a win for feminism if women start doing this. I knew a woman with a decent partner wouldn’t be pushing for this.

Heres a case of another useless father completely off the hook and a woman trying to do it all with the help of females relatives/friend, who end being more responsible for the child than the child’s actual male parent!

There are ways to stick it to the patriarchy but having kids with idiot males and then trying to do it all to the detriment of everyone else including the baby isn’t the one.

You can’t do that, really unfair to everyone