Reporting mildly creepy men - a responsibility to other women?

[Mrsmunchofmunchington]

I had a medication delivery yesterday from Boots. Due to my health needs it is delivered weekly.

My usual delivery chap is lovely and I have had a few others who have all been fine but yesterday’s man really gave me the creeps.

I don’t want this man delivering to me again and I am wondering about calling my pharmacy to say so.

Problem is that when I explain what happened it doesn’t sound like much at all but I feel like I have a responsibility to tell his employer about it just in case this man has form or may escalate with another woman in the future.

However I think what will actually happen is that I will just be viewed as a mad/ difficult customer.

What happened was this:
He rang the bell and when I opened the door he asked me to confirm my name. This is standard practice because I have a controlled drug.
I confirmed my surname and held out my hand for the bag of medication but he moved his hand holding the bag away and said “It’s myfirstname” and looked into my eyes with a flirty smile.
I repeated my surname and he said “no, it’s myfirstname” still smiling and twinkling at me.
I said that I was confirming my surname because this is what is always requested.
He finally then held out the bag of medication so I could take it.

It was a cross between mansplaining my own name to me and a come on and it left me feeling winded and weird.

I think it will be lost in translation if I call Boots. Especially if a man answers the phone.

I would feed back to Boots, just not in so much detail. I'd say that you recognise that some people may want a little interaction as this delivery person might be the only person they see all day, but you felt uncomfortable as he held your medication out of reach during the short interaction rather than hand it to you immediately once you'd confirmed your surname. and can he not do that again please. You prefer strangers to address you by your surname/title and not your first name. You found it unsettling.

Yes, do this.

Boots need to know that their delivery man withheld a medication delivery until you had to be firm with him and joking or not, it was an unpleasant experience. Additionally please can they not use him to deliver your meds in future.

I am sorry, it would have upset me, as well.

Also, put it in writing. You are right that a call could be less effective in getting your points across.

Yes, please do complain. Delivery people need training about boundaries.

I have had so many innapropriate comments from sainsburys delivery people that I don’t open the door to them any more, I have to arrange deliveries for when there is a male in my house. They never make comments to males.

I thought you had to confirm your full name so that they knew they were giving it to the right person?

that notwithstanding, please do feed back how inappropriate he was to boots.

He wouldn't have done this infantile kind of joking to a man so that’s the measure. Yes complain. Men need to be educated about their privilege and how to be appropriate.

100% agree with this, there is no way he would have dangled a man's medication out of reach, like he is trying to make a dog come for a treat. Yuck. Complain, definitely in writing. If he is witholding meds to make women act pleasingly for him that's horrible.