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Soggybirthdaycamping · 16/06/2025 22:16

pointythings · 16/06/2025 22:07

@Soggybirthdaycamping why, on discovering a premature birth, did someone leap to the conclusion that an investigation was necessary rather than prioritising mother and baby? This is the heart of the matter - women are not trusted with their own bodies. The fact of the matter is that this sort of thing could happen to anyone who goes into premature labour or has a miscarriage. Innocent women are put through the mill, and this has been escalating in recent years. We have all seen what is happening in the US. We know what happens in countries like El Salvador. A line has to be drawn.

Women first. Always, always, always.

I don't know why the investigation happened so quickly. It's clearly not standard practice.

The police initially attended to help with the baby, but started investigating when they were there. Why we don't know, and will never know. Did they see something suspicious? Did mums account of going into labour raise suspicions? Was there already a red flag on her file?

Its likely that her maternity notes would have been brought up v quickly, which presumably have shown that (a) mum only found out a few weeks before she was pregnant (b) wanted to abort but was too late (c) probably contained information about her state of mind in the few days/couple of weeks before the abortion. Maybe she mentioned to her midwife for she was struggling with continuing the pregnancy and considered ending it herself but changed her mind. Honestly, there was likely some form of warning flags on her case even before her premature labour.

A line has been drawn. One that allows a woman to abort 2/3rds the way through her pregnancy. But that line does not allow for unregulated, unlimited, DIY abortion. We shouldn't be encouraging backstreet DIY abortions, along with all the problems and risks they cause.

Ps: what if in this case, it was the Sammy's partner that laced her food/drink with abortion drugs? I bet you'd want it to be investigated then! How do you determine who may be under suspicion at the beginning?

pointythings · 16/06/2025 22:24

Soggybirthdaycamping · 16/06/2025 22:16

I don't know why the investigation happened so quickly. It's clearly not standard practice.

The police initially attended to help with the baby, but started investigating when they were there. Why we don't know, and will never know. Did they see something suspicious? Did mums account of going into labour raise suspicions? Was there already a red flag on her file?

Its likely that her maternity notes would have been brought up v quickly, which presumably have shown that (a) mum only found out a few weeks before she was pregnant (b) wanted to abort but was too late (c) probably contained information about her state of mind in the few days/couple of weeks before the abortion. Maybe she mentioned to her midwife for she was struggling with continuing the pregnancy and considered ending it herself but changed her mind. Honestly, there was likely some form of warning flags on her case even before her premature labour.

A line has been drawn. One that allows a woman to abort 2/3rds the way through her pregnancy. But that line does not allow for unregulated, unlimited, DIY abortion. We shouldn't be encouraging backstreet DIY abortions, along with all the problems and risks they cause.

Ps: what if in this case, it was the Sammy's partner that laced her food/drink with abortion drugs? I bet you'd want it to be investigated then! How do you determine who may be under suspicion at the beginning?

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Or alternatively: was there a culture change that has been driving the increase in prosecutions, prompted by the US forced birth movement and the way it is funding organisations right here in the UK?

I just wonder why people like you think this law change is going to suddenly make hordes of women rush to have illegal late term abortions? Because really, it's not. It's just going to protect those women who are currently being caught in an overzealous wave of law enforcement.

I would also ask you: how do you think it benefits anyone at all to put these women through the hellish trauma of prosecution and possibly jail? I'd much rather the police focused their limited resources on properly prosecuting violence against women and girls.

Kinkyroots · 16/06/2025 22:25

I work for the police. This is bollocks.

Soggybirthdaycamping · 16/06/2025 22:48

pointythings · 16/06/2025 22:24

Or alternatively: was there a culture change that has been driving the increase in prosecutions, prompted by the US forced birth movement and the way it is funding organisations right here in the UK?

I just wonder why people like you think this law change is going to suddenly make hordes of women rush to have illegal late term abortions? Because really, it's not. It's just going to protect those women who are currently being caught in an overzealous wave of law enforcement.

I would also ask you: how do you think it benefits anyone at all to put these women through the hellish trauma of prosecution and possibly jail? I'd much rather the police focused their limited resources on properly prosecuting violence against women and girls.

Sigh.

  1. these investigations are more common now because obtaining abortion pills is easy and legal and they can be used (and early stashed) at home. This wasn't the case pre covid. 10 years ago, a DIY late term abortion would have been difficult to do and would put the woman's life massively at risk. Now it takes a lie on a phone call, and is less physically invasive. That's why we are having these cases now.

  2. do you really think that the proposed change in the law will make any difference to whether some of these cases are investigated or not? Where a baby is said to have been stillborn at home, they would still be an investigation to establish whether the baby was born alive and then killed. Because even if DIY abortion is legal, murder is not.

  3. plenty of options already exist for legal termination of pregnancy. Risking a post viability infant being born alive at home and then left to die is not something I want the law to encourage. DIY abortions are bad for everyone, and they can cause a child lifelong disabilities and suffering.

  4. If a woman has a DIY late abortion that either means the child (who was perfectly viable with a little help) is born alive or suffocates to death, I'm absolutely in favour of prosecuting. Just as it's I would be had she suggested the baby at birth, it's killed it a year later. I don't routinely think we should avoid possession just because we are women.

babyproblems · 16/06/2025 22:57

YANBU op

Oodlesof · 16/06/2025 23:10

Kinkyroots · 16/06/2025 22:25

I work for the police. This is bollocks.

That's been proved many times on this thread. However, that doesn't fit in with some people's agenda. So the truth just gets completely ignored.

honeyfox · 16/06/2025 23:15

Apps are handy. I had an X-ray yesterday and was asked the first date of my last menstrual period. I could pull it up there and then. Useful when you are perimenopausal and irregular.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/06/2025 09:45

shellyleppard · 11/06/2025 19:17

Why do you need an app for your periods??? Just use a calendar or diary.....

It analyzes things for you and shows your fertile window and when you expect your next period

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/06/2025 09:50

TheEagerWasp · 11/06/2025 20:27

Of course they can use the app. It's about evidence for illegal abortions. So don't get an illegal abortion and you have nothing to fear

Ok so say you use the app on and off and forget about it

Then you go to the abortion provider and tell them you last had a period 7 weeks ago as you remember bleeding at a social occasion happening then.
Then they give you the pills and it turns out you were actually 20 weeks pregnant and that blood you saw must have been spotting not a proper period.
Then foetus comes out looking like a dead baby you call an ambulance as you don't know what to do and you're traumatized.
The ambulance calls the police who accuse you of lying and use the app on your phone as evidence that you knew you were heavily pregnant.
You then do to prison.

Are you on with that as this is the status quo and happening to women now?

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 17/06/2025 10:02

Soggybirthdaycamping · 16/06/2025 21:30

Ok, but there WAS something suspicious here. It wasn't just a premature labour.

When this lady found out she was pregnant she is tried initially to get an abortion but was beyond 24, weeks.

So then she researched buying abortion pills.

Then at 28 weeks (so 0-4 weeks after being refused an abortion, less time then that since she'd rejected the idea of taking the pills illegally), her baby was born suddenly at home, with no medics in attendance at that stage.

Thankfully baby made it, but this really did have red flags.

However whether abortion was legal or not, they'd have likely been police involvement anyway in this case whilst they established whether they're had been any post birth attempts to harm the baby, given the recent history.

For those that think it should be perfectly legal for women to conduct later term abortions on themselves, what happens when the baby survives but suffers terrible injuries or lifelong disabilities?

Do we just shrug that off as the consequences of a legal choice?
What if the baby initially survives but subsequently dies? Perhaps after a long hospital battle? The abortion was induced in a fetus, but reef in the death of a baby?

Where a post 24 week pregnancy ends at home unattended (like if the baby in this case had not been born alive), police and the coroner would need to be involved to establish whether the baby had been born alive. That would happen irrespective of the abortion laws.

With the rise of at home abortions, pills in the post etc, it's never been so easy for a woman to obtain a late term/at term abortion. We aren't even talking about back street abortion here, but completely removing the ban on DIY abortions!

I don't want a woman taking abortion pills to abort a 30 week old fetus, that may suffocate at birth or (if mum changes her mind and calls an ambulance) may be disabled for life by this. I absolutely think this should be illegal.

I wonder what an alternative is. If mum has to labour anyway, then perhaps after a certain point (35 weeks?) offer an induction or elective sec section to get baby out safely and it can be adopted? Then mum is only 'forced' to stay pregnant for ten more weeks?

JenniferBooth · 17/06/2025 14:47

The 15 year old who was investigated (mentioned upthread and in the Cosmo article) was the father of the baby also investigated as she was under age?!

pointythings · 17/06/2025 15:48

JenniferBooth · 17/06/2025 14:47

The 15 year old who was investigated (mentioned upthread and in the Cosmo article) was the father of the baby also investigated as she was under age?!

Of course not. That's why we need the change. The status quo allows men to get away with whatever they do, while women are punished.

MagicMichaelCaine · 17/06/2025 20:37

Surely the best option in light of all this is just to not get pregnant?

We always hear on here that if men don't want to be fathers they need to take personal responsibility for their own contraception. Surely the same is true here.

pointythings · 17/06/2025 20:43

MagicMichaelCaine · 17/06/2025 20:37

Surely the best option in light of all this is just to not get pregnant?

We always hear on here that if men don't want to be fathers they need to take personal responsibility for their own contraception. Surely the same is true here.

Can you please point me to the 100% failsafe perfect and side effect free contraception that exists and that every single woman irrespective of preexisting health conditions can use? Because I know two people who were doubling up and nevertheless got pregnant.

Oh, and advising abstinence, vasectomy and sterilisation doesn't count.

JenniferBooth · 17/06/2025 20:44

MagicMichaelCaine · 17/06/2025 20:37

Surely the best option in light of all this is just to not get pregnant?

We always hear on here that if men don't want to be fathers they need to take personal responsibility for their own contraception. Surely the same is true here.

See this is the thing though There are plenty of us child free by choice women around BUT WE GET MOANED AT FOR THAT AS WELL

SummerFeverVenice · 17/06/2025 20:47

shellyleppard · 11/06/2025 19:17

Why do you need an app for your periods??? Just use a calendar or diary.....

I started to use when peri hit because my period became irregular as hell and i wanted to be sure there wasn’t something wrong on top of peri- ie intermenstrual bleeding which is a symptom of womb cancer.

pointythings · 17/06/2025 20:55

JenniferBooth · 17/06/2025 20:44

See this is the thing though There are plenty of us child free by choice women around BUT WE GET MOANED AT FOR THAT AS WELL

Not to mention that if you are anything but borderline peri, you will be told that you can't be sterilised 'in case you change your mind'.

Genevieva · 17/06/2025 21:23

shellyleppard · 11/06/2025 19:17

Why do you need an app for your periods??? Just use a calendar or diary.....

It’s somewhat irrelevant though, as the issue is a total abuse of police power.

I use my own head. Been regular as clockwork my whole adult life. Even after babies I went back to the same week of the month.

MagicMichaelCaine · 17/06/2025 22:22

JenniferBooth · 17/06/2025 20:44

See this is the thing though There are plenty of us child free by choice women around BUT WE GET MOANED AT FOR THAT AS WELL

I don't really want kids but I've not found that people moan at me. I've defo had comments along the line of "when you've got your own kids" though. However, my sister has three so I'm kinda off the hook in terms of providing grandchildren. 🤣

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