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Lizzylion · 01/06/2025 22:00

1st time poster, not sure if I’m on the right thread but here goes. I’m a 61 year old F. Worked in mental health & social care for much of my career, and usually quite good at getting on with most people. Over the years, like all females, I’ve dealt with numerous encounters with ‘laddish ‘ behaviour. TBH I’m sick to death of it and just wanted some advice on general tips of how to deal with it as I seem to be getting it woefully wrong. Today, I drove to my local M&S, parked my car & was just writing a quick shopping list sitting in my car. I noticed a car parked directly opposite me, a few feet away. Inside were 2 men, aged 30ish. They were chatting to each other, laughing & staring directly at me (no idea why). This went on for a few minutes & I was feeling quite uncomfortable. Anyway, I got out of my car & had to walk past them to get to M&S. I felt quite angry at this point & walked up to them & said in a calm voice that they might want to consider being a bit more self aware with their behaviour as if they stare at women especially lone women, it can make us feel vulnerable & could be considered quite weird. They denied doing anything wrong & started shouting expletives at me. I quickly walked off to M&S. A kind man asked if I was ok & walked into the store with me. I was feeling a bit shaken tbh. Sorry for the long post but can I ask how any of you would have dealt with this any better please? Thanks

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 01/06/2025 22:07

I wouldn't have confronted two strange men in a car park and accused them of something I had no evidence of.

I'm sorry that happened and I hope you're feeling better.

WaffleParty · 01/06/2025 22:32

Dealt with what? They were looking in your direction. So what? Could have been for any number of reasons. You were obviously looking at them too.
ConfrontIng them was quite odd behaviour.

TheNaiceGreenViper · 01/06/2025 22:33

They were weirdos. Many men in their 30s in this day and age are

missmollygreen · 02/06/2025 21:15

Are you sure they were not just looking out of the windscreen, that is the way the sears face.... and you said they were parked opposite your car....

Lizzylion · 03/06/2025 09:53

Thanks everyone for your replies ❤️
Yes in hindsight I shouldn’t have got involved in speaking to them, and definitely won’t be doing that again!

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deydododatdodontdeydo · 03/06/2025 10:32

Sorry I think YABU. You have no idea what they were talking and laughing about, probably wasn't you at all.
No wonder you are "sick of it" if you encounters like this as laddish, you'll see it everywhere.

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