To me, Mumsnet is a community of women who've been there done that.
Experienced the shittiest possible situations life can chuck.
Hold wisdom and knowledge about human nature, about children, about men at their best and their worst.
You won't find much 'there there, dear...' here. Because it may feel nice but it won't help.
What you will get here is what you most need.
Wisdom and warnings, guidance, personal examples and telling offs.
Awkward and sometimes combative questions, asking you to hold a mirror up to your own life and look at your choices and behaviour.
Ordering you to finally put yourself and your children's rights and safety first.
To take the hardest decisions - and the most frightening choices.
Yes, the language can be very blunt, unfiltered by face to face encounters.
Many can get defensive over all this.
But that cold dose of reality is often what's needed.
It's a massive community of I think still mostly women, with the gloves off and their sleeves rolled up, wading in and pitching in.
We're the fishwives, the pit girls, the land girls, the WI, the Greenham women, the strikers, the Suffragettes, the coven, Matron, the mothers, the Spitfire pilots, Cassandra, the battlers against incompetence and arrogance and underfunding in the NHS and schools and CAMHS. They're with us.
That's my take - So what is Mumsnet to you?