OK. Agreed. But there is still something of a difficulty. As follows.
Some men (and women) say women should wear certain kinds of clothes - covering hair, for example - because god says ... . Some women are convinced by this.
Other men (and women, again) say women should not wear those kinds of clothes, because it's a sign of oppression; it's sexist. ... Some women are convinced by this.
Yes, both sets of men should stop telling women what to wear. But meanwhile, should a woman follow what the first set say, or what the second set say?
Suppose the woman to be religious: which male diktat should she follow: the (sexist, oppressive) religious one or the (anti-sexist, anti-oppressive) secular one? Suppose a secular society: which of the two male diktats should a woman follow?
-- And why?
[I note it's not an answer to say, "Whichever she chooses", because the question asks which she should choose.]