Detransing

[Blueberrylvrr]

Firstly I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right place, if this is in the wrong please pls feel free to move it, I also hope it's ok for me to post on this site in general as I'm not a parent

the reason I'm posting is that I'm looking for any sort of help or guidance, I'm 19 years old and decided I need to de transition. I was transitioning female to male but it's not right for me it's not what I want, I even started hormones (stopped taking them now). I don't want to transition it's not what I need

im not sure what to do, how to tell people, I'm so lost. I wish I never learnt what trans was i fear it's ruined my life my body my future

if anyone has any advice please share, I'm so lost now, all I know is that I am definitely not trans ❤️ thank you

For what its worth I found the God of the bible and it grounded me and gives me purpose. Jesus is real and powerful. Just incase this comment is of any help.

I agree with this.

Glad to hear you've found the path that best suits you, @Blueberrylvrr - there are unfortunately not all that many resources out there for detransitioners and the ones that exist can be rather toxic and axiomatic in their thinking, with a high degree of infiltration by bad faith actors.

Well done on working it all out and having the courage to say so, especially publicly on a forum like this.

Much of what you need, you already know from having done it the first time round - make sure you remain in contact with support services. You don't have to walk this lonely road alone.

There's a lot of people sharing their experiences on TikTok of detransitioning. It might be useful and helpful for you to check them out xx

Well done on making a decision which will almost certainly be healthier for you. Congratulations for realising that you are absolutely fine just as you are. You need not be constrained by the fact you are female. You can style yourself however you like, and enjoy whatever hobbies interest you. It’s ok to be an androgynous or masculine woman, if that’s what you turn out to be. It’s ok to be a lesbian too, if that’s what you find you are.

Agree with PPs about talking to your GP about any medical concerns and also about therapy. Clearly you’ve been through a confusing time and may need help from a therapist to help you navigate this change, and also perhaps to examine why it is that you came to believe you were trans.

I don’t know how you would do this, but I would want to choose a therapist who hasn’t been rainbow-washed by Stonewall or Mermaids etc. I’m sure I’ve seen before a link on MN about therapists who err on the side of science and safeguarding- I’ll see if I can find it.

Are you close to your family? If so, perhaps talking to them about your change of heart could be the first step, as they may be able to support by sharing the news with wider family etc to take the pressure off you a bit.
I am a mother to a daughter almost your age and I would be very happy to support her in this situation. I would just be so relieved she had come back to herself.

All the best OP 💐

Thank you so much everyone for your kind support, apologies for vanishing off the face of the earth, I got caught up in life (good things!!).

I spoke to my work, and my angel manager made it really easy for me to get everything updated on our systems.

my friends and main social circle are all aware, and have been incredibly lovely to me

I have very limited contact with my dad, and he never even knew i transitioned in the first place, so family are not aware, but I can live with that

I do have a counsellor right now who is a god send, she isn't 100% 'rainbow washed' as mentioned. I have came off the hormones, and spoken to a dr

My mobile won't let me tag but thank you for the offer of sourcing the list of therapists/counsellors who are not rainbowwashed, that would be really useful if you can find it :)

The God comment does help, I'm a practicing Catholic

thank you all so much

May our Heavenly Father bless you abundantly.

What a lovely update, BlueberrLover.

God bless and keep you on this new journey. 💐

@Blueberrylvrr, I couldn’t find the info I was looking for, so I asked on the FWR board and they came up trumps with info on therapists:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5065144-gender-critical-therapists?reply=134913041

I'm so glad you're feeling well @Blueberrylvrr. I've checked back periodically in the hope of finding a positive update. Congratulations on taking control. You have your whole life ahead of you. I hope it is happy and you find contentment, peace and love.