Is anyone here staying single and celibate and childfree?

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Or does anyone happen to know if there is a feminist site specifically for women like this?

You might get more replies on the childfree board.

There's a big movement in South Korea around this.

@MrsDanversGlidesAgain
I was thinking more from a feminist perspective, but I guess I could give that one a try.

@JamSandle
Yes! The 4B!
They are an true inspiration.
I wish we’ll have a western version of that one day.

Not me. I think a sexless life would be depressing for me.

Opposite to me 😇🤣

And I get a real kick on how it’s a middle finger to the the patriarchy at the same time.
Two birds, one stone!

I feel like it might be nice to foster children, but don’t want to have any of my own. I could take or leave a relationship, but have to admit it can get lonely.

Unfortunately, I’m attracted to men. 😩

And I get a real kick on how it’s a middle finger to the the patriarchy at the same time.
Two birds, one stone!

How old are you?

I would like this but I'm married. Good on those who do live this way.

If I found myself single I would never get into another relationship. I wouldn’t be celibate but I would be very very choosy.

There aren’t age requirements for a opinion.
And it’s true.

I asked because in my late teens/early 20s, myself and a few of my friends thought the same thing.
Within 10 years all were married.

Yes, I figured you were implying I must be young and silly and that finally one day a man will come into my life and true love or whatnot will heal me.
Heard it all before.

Believe it or not, but there are women who never jump on the bandwagon, even when they get older 😉
It doesn’t mean they are being childish.

I didn't mean you being silly and childish, although I don't know too many women my age who talk about "giving a middle finger to the patriarchy".
But what you said was very familiar to me from when me and my friends were a certain age.
Of course I know there are older women who have no interest in men, but in my experience they just get on with without posting about sticking it to the patriarchy on the internet.

I absolutely am. My sons father is a good guy and very involved with his upbringing, financially supportive and always on hand.

Literally every other relationship I've had has turned out badly with me being let down, cheated on or just slow to realise what a loser they were before it was too late.

I have absolutely no desire to ever share my home with a man, I have no sexual desire and frankly I don't think I have time even if I did, plus I have some health issues which means I'm bloody exhausted by the time DS7 is in bed and I fucking love climbing in bed to read as early as I please!!

To add, ex and I were together for 7 years and I co-habited with the previous partners too.

I just love not sharing my home with a man, I love it being me & DS and am happier than I ever have been. Touch wood!

@deydododatdodontdeydo

So do I, I just wanted to post this one question and see if there are others, since I don’t know anyone else IRL.
So no need for any undermining.

@threecupsofteaminimum
Happy to hear your loving single life!
But you kind of missed the childfree part.

Trust me, I got my kicks in aplenty before having my son

Sorry pressed send prematurely, I traveled the world for 2 years independently so I'm very happy to say I've had my fun. But life moves on, things change, priorities shift and we adapt or suffer imo.

I meant beind and staying childfree. It was right there in the title.
Getting your ’kicks’ was also very much not what I asked.
You seem to have totally missed the point of this thread!

I do apologise. You seem veerryyy touchy 😂

Hah!
Not at all, don’t worry!
Your comment just had nothing to do with anything and made no sense, so I thought you were commenting in the wrong thread or very, very confused.

Yep, made so much easier since becoming Catholic as no one questions the lack of child or expects me to be having sex.

Though (and I say this as a cradle Catholic turned atheist), that’s unlikely to fall under the OP’s idea of sticking it to the patriarchy, as you’ve converted to a religion heavily invested in controlling women’s sexuality while debarring them from priesthood etc. In fact, it’s forbidding you from being sexually active and from conceiving, except in certain church-mandated circumstances… I mean, assuming you stick to the rules.

OP, am feminist, married and have a child, but have several celibate, single childfree friends. Ultimately it suits them.

No offence, but I don't feel this is a very logical sacrifice to stick it to a small number of rich men who you'll never meet and who won't even be aware that you gave up your entire sex life to spite them. You're losing out with no redeeming factors.

Hard disagree.
I don’t see having to have sex as ’losing out’ and redeeming factor is that I don’t have to deal with men.
It’s a win-win.
Not adding to the patriarchy is just a bonus.

Gotta say, I’ve been very suprised by the comments, on feminist site no less.