Arm rest on Overground

[Camdenish]

I'm sitting on the Overground doing a bit of MN with one arm on the armrest. Someone gets on, sits down, and I feel my armrest arm elbowed out the way. He's now using it. The armrest that is.

I'm over 50, I'm a woman in case you hadn't guessed. What could I use my power of invisibility for that would be of benefit to me?

Put your invisible over 50s arm right back on there. You could also try a nice fart to move him along.

Get your elbow back on that rest.

Or maybe woman spread those legs.

Or maybe pretend a hot flush and start vigorously flapping a newspaper to create a draft in his direction.

Ha! Thank you. Who's I did was make myself really small

I know that was ridiculous but I'm grieving and my emotions are all over the place. Another time I could have caused a first fight.

It's just so blatant isn't it? The ageism and misogyny.

Remind yourself that his behaviour is no reflection on you. Imagine how small you'd have to be to get any satisfaction out of that kind of behaviour!

Absolutely blatant.

I don't yet suffer too much with ageism but the misogyny is most definitely there.

Patriarchy chicken is my absolute favourite game. I do it walking down the street, jostling for armrests, getting on the train. I'm only short and very scrawny. But my figure comes from years of Thai boxing and weight training. I'm strong as hell, far more solid than I look and I've been trained to brace myself for impact.

Patriarchy chicken is so fun because men don't expect themselves to get knocked off balance by a short-arse, noodle-armed woman.

I used to play Patriachy Chicken but got hurt by a a a man smashing into me so hard I practically got whiplash. I'm back to getting out the way.

I don't suppose he did get pleasure from making me feel small. I was just not there. Not even an irrelevance. Never mind. I know its not me.

That's tough, I'm sorry that happened to you.

My advice - as a boxer, as a patriarchy chicken lover and as a bloody difficult woman - would be not to keep moving towards them. Stop. Stand still. Arms across your front. Shoulders hunched forward and tensed. Brace.

Or just move out of their way and yell "No thank you very much for moving" to their retreating back. Cunts.

But I'm in London, I'd be doing that all day 😂

I would say they're cuts but to quote someone on here, they neither have the warmth or the depth.

Just say quite loudly ‘Do you mind if I put my arm back on the armrest?. I’m finding it hard to use my…..without it it. Thanks’.

even men don’t like to appear to be bastards in public.

Paraphrasing a little but I can see my new t-shirt slogan right there:

No thank you very much. Cunt.

In reality, I'm not strong / brave enough for this stance. But I could make it work on a mug 😂

I'd buy that mug!

I'd buy the mug too.

I have a huge sticker on my laptop, which I very proudly use on the train, that says "Men never fail to disappoint me"

It was something I said on a night out once and a friend got it printed on a sticker for me.

That would be a great day out for me 😆

When people look as though they're going to walk through my 4'10 81 year old mum, she stops dead with a smile and gestures to them to please go first. They usually brake sharply, or veer off to the side.

You'd have a wonderful workout justfuckingtired.

I like your mum’s style Discobeat