Chat GPT thinks we're living in the 1950s

[Jumpersaurus]

My husband was playing with ChatGPT and asked 'how do I please my wife?', so out of interest I asked the same for husband. Four of the five items are identical except these -

1. Help out with household chores. Taking on some of the responsibilities around the house can help reduce your wife's stress levels and show her that you're committed to making her life easier.

Compared to this...

1. Show appreciation. Let your husband know that you appreciate everything he does for you and your family. Acknowledge his hard work and express gratitude for his contributions.

FFS.

I asked it those same questions and it came up with identical answers for both.

Ffs indeed. Did you ask it a follow up question? I've not played with it much but it usually has to apologise at some point.

Well... the number of threads on here in which wives complain about their husbands' lack of initiative regarding domestic tasks suggest that (4) is not such a bad idea (for some men at least).

Yes, but the correct answer is 'recognise that household chores are 50% your responsibility regardless of what your parents taught you, as it is now 2023'.

ChatGPT gives an equivocal answer to a pressing issue

It's the 'help out' which shouldn't be there, I think.

It’s depressing but I agree that the answers are actually commensurate with (imo) what humans think too at this point in time.

I say this as a woman who constantly gets grumpy about the sheer amount of weekday-recipe-request and Hinch-appreciation and ‘how to keep my man happy with sex’ threads on MN. Men wouldn’t post those kind of things - they’d always put themselves first.

Just asked perplexity the same questions..

I've not heard of 'perplexity' but it seems to have a very limited notion of what the word 'please' means.

Chat gpt reflects the opinions/information most common on the internet, which in turn is hugely dominated by white males.

This really is what an average man on the internet thinks.

Which is very depressing.

I understand that this may not be the point but chatgpt doesn't think that, it doesn't think anything. It is basically a particularly sophisticated autocomplete - it is figuring out which word would be most likely to come next in the sentence based on how people talk to each other on the internet when answering this kind of question.

It is holding a mirror up to (in this instance) just how sexist the answers on the internet are, which is for me somehow a lot worse and certainly harder to fix.

sorry redtoothbrush I see now you already made that point yesterday

I have some old magazines of my grandmother's, from the 1930s/40s - I think the answer was lifted straight out of those!

They say things like
"make sure you've got the house tidy and have taken your apron off before your husband arrives home from work"
"have a cup of tea ready for you husband when he gets home as he's probably had a stressful day at work"
and more in that vein.