I’ve been having smears for 25 years without issue, but the one I had last week, the nurse had to try all four of the different speculae available before she could find my cervix. There wasn’t a special one somewhere, she just tried the smallest one second, but no mention of it being ‘virginal’ or any other nonsense. Women on these boards have never mentioned this issue, in the many threads I’ve read about reluctance to have smears - objections are usually based on pain, and a preference for HPV testing instead.
I’m glad I had a physical examination and not just an HPV test because the nurse could see how fragile my perimenopausal vulval skin has become, and she’s got me a prescription and a doctor’s appointment next week. None of that would have happened if I hadn’t had a physical exam. Those are the sorts of benefits we should be pointing out to women who are reluctant.