Tried to have a friendship with a guy

I'm so sorry you have been treated in such a cruel way. I too am a lesbian and have dealt with very similar things, people telling me how "unnatural " it is to be gay, how it's a "sin" etc and if I had a pound for every time some creep tried to think he could be the one who could "turn me straight ", well I would be very wealthy.

It sounds like sour grapes and a whole pile of bitter misogyny with this guy because there are some men who seem to think they can still wear us gay women down and as I said, turn us straight. If this person is still contacting you or it's on a forum, I would definitely say to try to block them and not allow them anymore access to your time.

So sorry you had to deal with this and hope you are doing ok💕

Sorry you're dealing with this OP. Despite all the advances sadly there's still a lot of homophobic views and misogyny out there.

Does the website you use have an admin or moderator you can flag these threads/messages to? Many websites & groups have some basic 'rules' and it's likely these posts are in breach of those.

Don't let the views and actions of an individual or small minority push you out of this group.

Sorry to hear about that.
The spiteful, hateful, things that were posted are a reminder to you of just how lucky you are to be you. Who would want to be them, with all that negativity bubbling away inside of them.
Just be thankful you are not like them and live your life how you wish. What they wish you to be, or not to be, is their problem, not yours.
They will say all kinds of stuff borne out of mysogyny and the belief that they are God's gift, so women should feel they're irresistible, they have nothing better to do than spread their hate online.
I think they should be banned from whatever site it is, although no doubt they could simply create another account and continue with what they're doing.
Rise above them, ignore or block them, leave them to their misery, and continue doing what you enjoy,
Enjoy your life!

I'm really sorry this happened to you OP.

Sorry to hear that you’ve been treated that way. I’m also gay and have lost people that I thought were friends because of it.

Possibly a stupid question, but is there a an alternate space for you to still be involved in your hobby that may be a bit more tolerant?

I kind of get it - when I was younger I had a similar hobby/interest that I had grown up loving. I was not welcome in that space either because of my sexuality. Eventually I drifted away from it and just stuck with hobbies and social circles where I felt welcome.

Unfortunately I would have to agree and say that homophobia is still very much alive and well in many spaces. That said there are many people that do not feel this way and I hope you are able to surround yourself with more supportive and tolerant people. Deep down I do believe it will get better. Sending big hugs

I am so sorry you went through this. I had similar comments in the 80s and 90s and it made stay in the closet and try harder to be straight.....a failed endeavour!
Since finally coming out I have had a couple of ignorant but not ill-meaning comments along the 'what a waste' theme but largely positive.
I guess it varies depending where in the world you are but if your hobby group is based on a social media site you can report it through the platform as well.
Meanwhile, just be thankful you are a lesbian and don't ever have to deal with dating morons like this! You could even state that just before you leave, that it's dicks like that who make you happy to be gay.
Or if the admin aren't handling it, just call him out and make him look like the idiot he is/ they are every time they posts....you might find others post in support of you.
Is there another site for your hobby you can join?

There is always Jill Scott's motivational quote to use as well!

Unfortunately male-dominated hobbies can often attract a certain type of man. It sounds like there are one or more of the very worst type of misogynists on the site. They hate women in general and have a particular issue with any women that they know won’t sleep with them. To these kind of men, women are only good for sex and if you’re gay then it means there’s no chance of you sleeping with them (although how this type of man ever manages to get any woman to sleep with them is beyond me).
Is there another website you can join about that hobby instead? Or, failing that, rejoin the one you’re on with a new name. You shouldn’t have to but if you really want to stay on that site it would be a way to avoid the targeting.

The second thread went on about how lesbians were unnatural and how good it was to spend time with a straight women who they could touch like a normal women and reacted normally

God almighty! I'm a straight woman, and the thought of fuckwits like that touching me makes me vomit. I would however react normally, ie by telling them to shove their heads down a toilet. and keying their cars on the way out

I'm utterly shocked and appalled that anyone would think this way and treat you this way. I agree with the other posters that it's probably misogynistic men who think they have a right to shag every woman on the planet and take it as a personal affront that you don't want to sleep with men at all. No doubt straight women that aren't up for their games would just be frigid bitches. It amazes me any woman would touch them with a barge pole.

I'm really curious what the hobby is, although obv don't want OP to out herself. Most guys I've met find the thought of lesbians hot but are disgusted by gay male sex.

This is particularly discouraging as it relates to sexuality, but let's face it: Men are awful to women online, and it could also have been attacking someone for being fat, or elderly, or poor, or Muslim, or anything else.

Yep. This is exactly the kind of creep most women do well to avoid.

It is like they have a hatred of both women and gay people.

The two often go hand in hand.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. You sound like a lovely, interesting person and I'm furious that anyone thinks it's OK to be abusive and horrible like that. If you have the strength, stay and don't be pushed out of your hobby. Keep reporting the hate and maybe mention how hate crime is illegal.

OP, take screen shots of the worst comments and go to the police. As PP says, this is a hate crime and illegal.
This creep deserves to have the salutary shock of uniformed police officers turning up on his doorstep. Even if they just give him a caution, it will make him far less likely to risk posting any more of his poisonous shit online.

From your thread title op, does that mean you know has posted the worst stuff and it's a man you thought you were friends with? If so can you call him out on it?
Kinda of "I'm really hurt by what you've posted Bob, we've always got on well but now you've turned on me because I'm a lesbian. Presumably it offends your ego to think some women just don't want a man. I'm sorry you've got such bitterness in your life but please keep me out of it"

Sorry you are facing this op!

I don't suppose it helps much to know that men who treat you like this (often found amongst those preferring make-dominated activities)are exactly the ones who treat straight women badly too.

Deep down they regard all women as support creatures - there to meet the needs of men when 'honoured'by demands to do so.

By saying that you are lesbian you are refusing the 'honour' of being with them before they even asked . Unthinkable ! A threat to the order of things! Your preference becomes an affront -an attack on them.

Straight women who turn them down also get the treatment you describe. They will be: unnatural/slags/ prick-teases etc.

Their behaviour must make the world seem a place of hate. It isn't! They are the unnatural ones. They should be outed and shamed for their misogyny and homophobia. A site that lets them get away with this is one of the Internets dark corners.