Thank you for raising this.
As a newborn, I was left on the steps of a Romanian church in a box. I was not an isolated case. Abortion was banned in the 80’s, but so was contraception in order to multiply the population. Families who could not afford to feed their children chose to abandon their children. Men raised these rules, men made these women pregnant, men made these women abandon their children. As a mother, I cannot imagine the anguish.
By the Grace of God, or because I was the cutest newborn, or for some other reason, I was adopted to a Russian couple, my parents. Many, many, many babies spent their entire childhoods in orphanages. Those of us adopted out, it was done informally, no paper trails for the majority of us. Many of us exchanged for cash to rich foreigners. I know I was. I count my lucky stars everyday because I just think of how many children must have been purchased by sick men as sex toys and I often feel guilty I was brought up in a weird but loving, extravagant childhood.
We have a Facebook group: the lost children of Romania. I can’t speak for everyone but it’s harrowing to think that history has the potential to repeat itself. Yet here we are. As a child I always wondered what was wrong with me, why was I abandoned, who are my parents, who do I look like, what did they do, do they have any genetic illnesses. Now I just feel lucky, knowing thousands have a life far worse than mine and I’m not justified to feel bad about myself.
Sorry, I know I’ve digressed.