DS 13yo has been caught is school writing a terribly rude note about a girl in his class. This is not the first time, as earlier also I had read an inappropriate text on his phone describing the same girl. We had a long discussion about respecting girls as his equals and not as objects.
In my mind I had handled this well and I am very heartbroken that he is continuing to be so disrespectful. I reeled when I read the note because I did not expect him to use such language about a girl he has been friends with since preschool.
DS goes to a school renowned for discipline and we know most of their friends and their families. I am a proud feminist and my DH is respectful, progressive and a great role model. When I look around, I see no reason why DS should be behaving like this. He does play Fortnite on weekends and this could be a source. I don't know much about gaming but understand it can contribute.
It's my responsibility to shape his values and clearly I am failing. How can I help him reflect on what he is doing and make positive change? Will really appreciate resources, books and personal stories that can help. Thank you.