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India are looking to criminalise marital rape.. men want to boycott marriage

18 replies

Keke94LND · 29/01/2022 11:14

www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/01/28/india-marital-rape/

Just men being a bunch of babies because their 'human rights' aren't being protected apparently

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Deadringer · 29/01/2022 12:38

So men are openly fighting for their right to rape their wives. Wow.

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bonfireheart · 29/01/2022 12:42

Boycotting marriage? Not sure anyone would want to marry a man who thinks rape is ok anyway.

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butnobodytoldme · 29/01/2022 19:15

Tagging on, Mail reports a teenage boy approached a married woman, and became suicidal to be rejected, so his family had her gang raped and tortured, then paraded to the evident delight of watching men, women and children. India is sometimes beyond understanding. I didn't read the detail, but would it be because she was lower caste, therefore the boy believed himself perfectly entitled?

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AlexaShutUp · 29/01/2022 19:22

This is excellent news. Those men who believe that it is their rightb to rape their wives should absolutely avoid marriage at all costs.

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AlexaShutUp · 29/01/2022 19:22

@butnobodytoldme

Tagging on, Mail reports a teenage boy approached a married woman, and became suicidal to be rejected, so his family had her gang raped and tortured, then paraded to the evident delight of watching men, women and children. India is sometimes beyond understanding. I didn't read the detail, but would it be because she was lower caste, therefore the boy believed himself perfectly entitled?

To be fair, this would be beyond understanding for most Indians too.
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Gardengates · 29/01/2022 19:25

I think if more men who want the right to rape their wives decide to boycott marriage then the world would be a better place.

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NutellaEllaElla · 29/01/2022 19:58

@Deadringer

So men are openly fighting for their right to rape their wives. Wow.

It's shit like this that makes me feel as though men aren't really human. Not the enlightened kind anyway.
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AmandaHoldensLips · 29/01/2022 20:02

If only the women could boycott marriage too....

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butnobodytoldme · 01/02/2022 21:58

It is all of a piece, if you don't really think women and girls are equal humans. As the COP climate photo showed, virtually everywhere in the world men are running the show.
A minor news item last week was a Syrian five year old girl, kidnapped and raped. When she was returned to her parents they did the only thing they could, to restore family honour: They killed her.

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butnobodytoldme · 01/02/2022 22:03

Was it '96 that the law changed in UK? Men had the legal right to use their own wives' bodies as readily and freely as they used their own W.C.

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Isthatthebestyoucando · 01/02/2022 22:25

I think it was 1992.

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EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 02/02/2022 10:18

@butnobodytoldme

Was it '96 that the law changed in UK? Men had the legal right to use their own wives' bodies as readily and freely as they used their own W.C.

It was later in Scotland than England so I don't know when it was harmonised for the UK.

It really isn't that long ago.
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RobotValkyrie · 05/02/2022 19:07

If I remember well, non-consummation is still ground for marriage annulment in England. In other words, for the "contract" to be "valid", married partner are expected to have had sex at least once. I find the concept utterly gross.

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thinkingaboutLangCleg · 16/02/2022 00:27

@butnobodytoldme

It is all of a piece, if you don't really think women and girls are equal humans. As the COP climate photo showed, virtually everywhere in the world men are running the show.
A minor news item last week was a Syrian five year old girl, kidnapped and raped. When she was returned to her parents they did the only thing they could, to restore family honour: They killed her.

It’s unbearable. Poor little soul. And all the others we don’t even hear about.
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Swear · 17/02/2022 21:14

@butnobodytoldme

Was it '96 that the law changed in UK? Men had the legal right to use their own wives' bodies as readily and freely as they used their own W.C.

It was about 1990. I remember because I was a student and there was a student debate - for and against a change in the law to make a man raping his wife illegal. I missed the debate, unfortunately.
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Swear · 17/02/2022 21:16

I do remember a fellow student commenting that he thought that rape shouldn't be a criminal offence in itself - there should only be a charge at all if the woman was injured.

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butnobodytoldme · 17/02/2022 23:02

@Swear

I do remember a fellow student commenting that he thought that rape shouldn't be a criminal offence in itself - there should only be a charge at all if the woman was injured.

Men really really really aren't women. A lot of them genuinely don't comprehend that.
To many men, 'cottaging' in a gay bar or a pub is easy to understand: Instant intimate contact with a stranger seems natural to them.

They forget that mutual attraction and mutual consent is involved in those events, and that if another man attempted force, his intended man-prey would have a fair chance of fighting free, unsodomised.

There's a lot wrong with porn, but perhaps the least noted is the worst: In the male's fantasy-land, all women are like the males of most animal species during mating season; crazed with eagerness at every possibility.

(All women are young and within the top 10% of attractiveness, too, and never have periods, never need condoms, and surprisingly never become pregnant nor contract and transmit disease)

A man's brain may cope with the idea that a woman might have ideally preferred a different man, or different surroundings, or that wierd women-creatures seem to like some kinds of courtship ritual. But he possibly won't truly understand that unlike him, some women would sometimes prefer not to copulate at all, even when there is the perfect opportunity of someone else being nearby.

Yes, NAMALT. But it only needs one who is, to wreck or to end a life.
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Fimofriend · 21/02/2022 18:19

But if Indian men start boycotting marriage won't that mean fewer forced marriages for women? How is that a bad thing? If all men in India boycotted marriage for a year maybe more women or rather girls would be able to escape.

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