How long did you live with DV?

[VelvetChairGirl]

Just that basically I am curious to know how long abusive relationships tend to last?

mine lasted 14 years.

[corlan]

13 years. Got the courage to leave when I was pregnant.

[hopeforlucky3]

Mines lasted 11yrs.

[VelvetChairGirl]

so is ten years then about the average?

[RobotValkyrie]

18 years because I was a child and the abuser was a parent.
They're still together, somehow...

[TomAllenWife]

First one 3 years
Second one 10 years

[DoubleYouOhEmAyEn]

10 years.

[fantasmasgoria1]

10 years the first time and the second time it began after a few years so probably 17 in total

[iklboo]

14 years here too. It only ended when he left.

[Flapjak]

Too long

[SunsetsAndLollypops]

10 years first time. 4 years the second

[UnsolicitedDickPic]

Roughly 10 years. More emotional and financial with a smattering of physical. We only lived together for 7 of those years though.

[AlwaysLatte]

What is DV?

[AlwaysLatte]

Oh I just googled it. Sorry that is awful. So brave to put an end to it

[UsernameNotAvailableHmm]

The first time was 18 years, I had little choice as those were the first 18 years of my life.
Growing up I learned so much about men from my father.
The second time was only a few months.
I was able to notice the red flags very quickly, so maybe my father did me a favour after all, in a very unintentional way.

[VelvetChairGirl]

thanks

if anyone is wondering why I asked, its because the ex is still with someone (been a couple of years) and I find it hard to understand how she hasn't run a mile yet.

good to know I am normal and not a complete moron for ending up saddled with the sod so long.

[UsernameNotAvailableHmm]

@VelvetChairGirl

Your ex may still be with someone but you don't know what kind of torment she is going through.
She could be planning her escape as we type.
I only wish everyone who needs to escape a horrible existence with another has the strength and means to do so.

[gelatodipistacchio]

I was with my emotionally abusive ex for 10 years.

I wonder the same about his new girlfriend.