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Etiquette on signing off Christmas cards

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HoneyFlowers · 23/12/2021 15:55

Should it read from... Man of house, woman of house and then children in age order? Or the person who writes card puts their name first?

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dementedpixie · 23/12/2021 15:57

I put mine first usually as I write them

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DismantledKing · 23/12/2021 15:57

I always put my name first.

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Ketchupman · 23/12/2021 15:57

My name goes first if I write the cards. Then DH and children in age order (only way I remember their names, no favouritism).

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MrsTophamHat · 23/12/2021 15:57

I do the person with the main connection to the recipient first.

So a card to my parents would be Me, DH, eldest child, youngest child.

If it were for someone on his side I would put his name first, though usually DH writes his own cards and gift tags.

If there isn't a 'side' e.g a card to the neighbours, then I just write what I feel like.

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Hadalifeonce · 23/12/2021 16:00

My name first for 'my' friends/relatives DH's for his. Children in decreasing age.

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ToPlayOrNotToPlay · 23/12/2021 16:02

I do the same as @MrsTophamHat I have a couple if friends who do the man, woman, child thing, we're in our 30s, I find it really annoying, you're my friend why are you putting your husband first. I don't know why it bugs me so much just seems odd and old fashioned 🤷‍♀️

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MrsTimRiggins · 23/12/2021 16:03

@MrsTophamHat

I do the person with the main connection to the recipient first.

So a card to my parents would be Me, DH, eldest child, youngest child.

If it were for someone on his side I would put his name first, though usually DH writes his own cards and gift tags.

If there isn't a 'side' e.g a card to the neighbours, then I just write what I feel like.

I do this too, makes the most sense to me.
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Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 23/12/2021 16:04

I'm always first- I wrote them. No idea what he does, never checked

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Pucarbuile · 23/12/2021 16:06

Generally me first as the one writing, but on the very odd occasion I do them for dh's family, his name first. All cards are addressed to "Surname Family" where they all have the same surname or to "my friend & family" where I know she has kept her surname.

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Pucarbuile · 23/12/2021 16:08

@Pucarbuile

Generally me first as the one writing, but on the very odd occasion I do them for dh's family, his name first. All cards are addressed to "Surname Family" where they all have the same surname or to "my friend & family" where I know she has kept her surname.

Should clarify, that's on the envelopes. I list all names I have (starting with the adult I know best, then children in age/whatever way I can remember them) in the card itself.
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over2021 · 23/12/2021 16:10

For DH's family: DH, me, DD1 and DD2

For my family and other friends: Me, DH, DD1 and DD2

It flows better with my name first Grin

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SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 23/12/2021 16:14

I do DS first... But I don't often write Christmas cards

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FASDE1517 · 23/12/2021 16:37

Same!

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MsGrumpytrousers · 24/12/2021 10:48

@HoneyFlowers

Should it read from... Man of house, woman of house and then children in age order? Or the person who writes card puts their name first?

On what basis would you put the man's name first?
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RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 25/12/2021 17:37

I write the card…my name first

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Deliriumoftheendless · 27/12/2021 08:08

Do they not write their own names?

When I lived with my ex I signed and he signed. Now I sign and child signs.

If no one else could be arsed or the recipient didn’t really know I’d just put “from Delirium and family”.

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LadyCatStark · 27/12/2021 08:30

Whichever order the names flow best for example DH and I are always DH’s name, my name and we only have one child so that’s not an issue. My sister and her husband are always Sister, husband, oldest child, youngest child as it works better that way.

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 27/12/2021 08:35

I have noticed on every envelope DH is listed first. (Whether its Mr or his professional title).

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thetinsoldier · 27/12/2021 09:10

Me, H, kids in age order- no idea how H does his!!

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MorbidMuch · 27/12/2021 09:19

Like others have said, I go by the closest contact and have their name first, followed by spouse/partner and then the kids in age order.

When signing, I usually put my name first as I'm writing the cards.

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WhatIsThisPlease · 27/12/2021 09:32

I always put man first followed by me then DC in age order.

We were taught to do that at school. Probably very old fashioned now but old habits!! I'm 47 btw.

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Mumoblue · 27/12/2021 09:34

I always put whoever is closest to the recipient first. Then descending in age order.

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Tippexy · 27/12/2021 09:35

@HoneyFlowers

Should it read from... Man of house, woman of house and then children in age order? Or the person who writes card puts their name first?

When married couples are mentioned by first name then the tradition is to use the woman’s name first.
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RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 27/12/2021 09:36

Oh if im sending a card i send it female first (if friends) and then husband/partner, relatives are blood relative first then spouse

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logsonlogsoff · 27/12/2021 12:20

The name the person writing the card goes first and that includes cards
Going to DW family if I’m writing them. Though general she writes the ones for her lot, I do mine and for mutual friends it’s whichever person - adult or child- writing the card.
I find it bizarre that you would automatically write the ‘man of the house’ name first but we’re a household of 2 mums so that kind of gendered tradition or rule or whatever you want to call it doesn’t exist in our home.

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