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Any advice regarding incident with teen daughter

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MrsLannister · 09/09/2021 20:47

Usually a lurker on here and find myself nodding along but tonight I’m in need of advice. I’m going to keep this quite general just in case.

My early teen daughter arrived home from school today upset and somewhat shaken by a boy on her school bus home. He had given her the creeps from the offset, sitting down across the aisle from her. He then proceeded to spend the journey staring at her which made her feel uneasy in her gut (we’ve spoken a lot about spider senses and gut instinct). He then stretched across the aisle and touched her body purposefully and inappropriately.

Obviously my first instinct is to call the school in the morning ASAP and demand something is done about it.

My questions are, is there anything that can back me up from a legal viewpoint so I don’t just sound like a raging and hysterical mum (which I am) and how can I support her properly so that she stays aware and alert but doesn’t get the fear?

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Summerhillsquare · 09/09/2021 20:56

A legal viewpoint? You could call the police, he sexually assaulted her.

You reassure her she's done the right thing in letting you know.


KidneyBeans · 09/09/2021 20:57

It's assault
Report to the police and school safeguarding


insatiableme · 09/09/2021 21:08

Report to the police. There is also usually cameras on school buses.


Willdoitlater · 09/09/2021 21:09

Do buses have cameras recirding stuff these days? If so thats obviously solid evidence.


NewlyGranny · 09/09/2021 23:59

She needs to know she can physically move herself away from danger, that it's OK even when the bus is moving to go and sit - or stand if she has to - near a good friend or to go close to the driver. Anywhere he will be reluctant to follow her. And tell people what's happening in a big, confident voice.


Futurecatmum2 · 10/09/2021 13:16

Report to police, report to school and governors. You are absolutely right to take this extremely seriously - it’s sexual assault, plain and simple. Good luck, and I hope your DD is okay Flowers


DayDate · 10/09/2021 13:43

Yes report that to the police. I sometimes find myself on the side of the man/boy when things are done/said inadvertently and think it's all a bit of an overreaction, but there's nothing accidental nor misguided about this.

Report to police and school and the bus company should have CCTV.

And everything NewlyGranny said.


MrsLannister · 10/09/2021 14:27

Thank you all for your advice and kind words. The school is taking it very seriously and have contacted the bus company for footage. They are escalating the ‘evidence’ to the community school police officer. I was allowed to sit in with my daughter while they questioned her which was appreciated.

As for my daughter she is confused and a little uneasy about the school bus so her dad and I will be picking her up and dropped her off until we have some sort of resolution to this. Thanks again

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Abitofalark · 11/09/2021 02:10

Article here may help.

I think it relates to the Panorama programme this week that I caught a little bit of in passing. If you have iPlayer you may still be able to see it.

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