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Woman in Derbyshire murdered by stalker.

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QueenOfPain · 22/06/2021 01:23

I heard about this the other day as I live fairly locally but there hadn’t been much detail provided at the time.

A 23 year old woman was found badly injured in a field, paramedics failed to keep her alive. The field was where she kept her horse.

A few hours later the police find a 35 year old mans body in a car nearby. This man is an ex colleague who went on one date with her and became infatuated.

Six weeks previously a pedestrian had found a bag full of knives, an axe, an obscure note saying “don’t lie” as well as items of clothing and a water bottle in the lane near the field where she was found dying. It was handed into the police but nothing was done about it, no DNA test or attempt to identify it’s owner made, apparently.

The police have referred themselves to the IOPC as they disclose having had contact with Gracie in the past year, presumably in relation to this man. Gracie had applied for a restraining order.

I’m so fucking angry for this brilliant, loved woman with her whole life ahead of her who was taken by this awful man who wouldn’t leave her alone. The police had two opportunities to intervene and do something, maybe even three if the restraining order had been sorted.

How do we protect ourselves? The police won’t even pretend to take these things seriously when we ask.

What is the answer to the make sense of entitlement to women? And their violence against us?

Guardian link here;

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QueenOfPain · 22/06/2021 01:24


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DeeCeeCherry · 22/06/2021 01:29

What is the answer to the male sense of entitlement to women? And their violence against us?

Protect yourself as best you can. For me, thats by any means necessary. Women have no saviours. Men don't care, they cover for each other and blame women.

I don't even trust a policeman, I was hassled by one when I was younger.

Poor woman. Her last moments must have been utterly terrifying.


Aquamarine1029 · 22/06/2021 02:10

This story has made me sick to my stomach on a personal level. I was stalked when I was in my early 20's, back in the mid 90's. It was absolutely terrifying and the worst part of my life. I went to the police several times and they did fuck all, literally not even interested. I got away from my stalker by moving a very large distance away, and thankfully the internet didn't exist as it does now. To this day, I still occasionally look for his face in a crowd. Being stalked is something that never, ever leaves you. I am heartbroken for Gracie and her family. It's fucking horrific.


ScreamingMeMe · 22/06/2021 07:11

A horrific and probably preventable crime - wtf were the police thinking

My trust in the police when it comes to violent crimes against women is so, so low. Could we call them institutionally misogynistic?


Offredismysister · 22/06/2021 07:32

This is the second time in as many years that Derbyshire Police have referred themselves to the iopc. Similar circumstances too

I think misogynistic behaviour is rife in the police. I used to work as a nurse in a Sarc & the amount of women that were not taken seriously because of their background or job was unbelievable.


EishetChayil · 22/06/2021 07:34

This is why I'm teaching my daughter martial arts, and to trust nobody.

RIP Gracie. Yet another senseless waste.


Beannag · 22/06/2021 07:36

How scary for her, when will the police start listening to women. This, as so many others, could have been avoided if they had. Thinking of her family and friends.

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