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RIP Gracie Spinks

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 19/06/2021 21:12

Only 23, pursued by a stalker. Done everything right - she had a restraining order against him. She has been found murdered and the body of a man found nearby.

What can we do to get the crime of stalking taken seriously?

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thinkingaboutLangCleg · 19/06/2021 21:24

Damn him. How many women have to die?

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Rhannion · 19/06/2021 21:25

Terrible news , another young woman lost to male violence and probably let down by the police. My hear goes out to her family and friends. Rest In Peace Gracie

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Gingernaut · 19/06/2021 21:37

There's a Go Fund Me page for her horse.

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YellowFish12 · 19/06/2021 21:40

😢

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LizzieSiddal · 19/06/2021 21:47

So awful. Poor Gracie.

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enjoyingscience · 19/06/2021 21:49

This is horrible. Women are not safe. Every legal avenue lets us down.

RIP Gracie.

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emmeline7725 · 19/06/2021 21:53

Just a few minutes from my front door. Gracie used to be my daughter's swimming teacher. It is absolutely horrendous that a young woman can't safely tend her horse at 8.30 on a Friday morning.

God bless you Gracie. Things have to change.

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 19/06/2021 21:56

I am so sorry for Gracie and her friends and family. I can imagine she has had a long time of worry and stress and even after all she did, the system did not protect her. I have a daughter the same age and know this can happen to anyone.

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SnoopyLights · 19/06/2021 21:58

Heartbreaking for her, her family and friends.

Stalking and harassment need to be taking so much more seriously by the authorities than they are.

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 19/06/2021 22:02

Emmeline - I am so sorry for your loss xx

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midgemagneto · 19/06/2021 22:05

@SnoopyLights

Heartbreaking for her, her family and friends.

Stalking and harassment need to be taking so much more seriously by the authorities than they are.

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Letsgetreadytocrumble · 19/06/2021 22:18

Apparently one of the 'villagers' who lives nearby called it 'possibly a crime of passion' WTAF?

RIP Gracie - another woman totally failed by those who are supposed to protect us.

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midgemagneto · 19/06/2021 22:19

Passion ???? Uncontrolled emotion yeah . Weak man yeah

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StrangeLookingParasite · 19/06/2021 22:20

Apparently one of the 'villagers' who lives nearby called it 'possibly a crime of passion'

This sickens me - trying to make this out to be something bloody romantic. It was murder.
Oh yes, you should like the unwanted attention of some utter loser, because it's romantic.
Fuck the fuck off.

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RickiTarr · 19/06/2021 22:28

Awful. RIP Gracie.

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Clarice99 · 19/06/2021 22:45

This is awful news. So tragic. And oh so offensive for it to be called a crime of passion.

RIP Gracie.

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Gumbomambo · 19/06/2021 22:48

Devastatingly sad. This kind of behaviour seems to start out low level, then insidiously creeps up. Restraining orders are pointless to these people. I try to think what can actually be done in a real way to protect these frightened vulnerable girls? It always just seems to be swept under the carpet. Another one too many and it just breaks my heart.

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Watermelon221 · 19/06/2021 22:58

Stalking and other crimes like flashing etc need to be taken much more seriously with much harsher penalties.

It must be utterly terrifying to have to put up with this with nowhere to turn for proper help.

I don’t know what the answer is, but there needs to be some pretty serious overhauling of the current system which seems to always work against the victims.

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hoorayforharoldlloyd · 20/06/2021 12:41

We can write to the force to ask why she wasn't protected, kit malthouse the policing minister to ask why stalking is not being taken seriously enough as a crime and the home secretary to ask why we don't have a stalker or domestic abuse register.

I'm so angry it let's use our anger to try and make change. Gracie deserved so much better. 23 years old,I just can't accept this any more.

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VexedofVirginiaWater · 20/06/2021 13:12

It says she tried to take out a restraining order - so does that mean she couldn't? And if not, why not?

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334bu · 20/06/2021 13:38

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2021/jun/19/bodies-of-woman-23-and-man-in-30s-found-in-fields-near-derbyshire-village

So why was stalking omitted from Abuse Bill and why is there no record of stalkers?
This has to change.

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SnoopyLights · 20/06/2021 14:26

@Letsgetreadytocrumble

Apparently one of the 'villagers' who lives nearby called it 'possibly a crime of passion' WTAF?

RIP Gracie - another woman totally failed by those who are supposed to protect us.

That makes me so angry.

She didn't know him.
She wasn't friends with him.
She never had a relationship with him.
She took out a restraining order against him.
She was just living her life normally.
He saw her.
He became obsessed with her.
He harassed her.
He stalked her.
He killed her.

There's no passion there. There was no relationship, no interest in him on her part. And nothing romantic on his part either, no love, no passion, just a pathetic man obsessed with a stranger, feeling so entitled to force himself into her life that he felt he had a right to take it.

I hate how this type of crime is excused by people time and time again, whether a relationship took place or not. Girls and women being held responsible for the feelings of boys and men.

Girls being put under pressure to date boys when they don't want to - because he likes you - why won't you give him a chance - would it kill you to go out on a date with him? And actually, yes it could kill her. So could saying no.

Women being held responsible for their own murders - she said no, she humiliated him, she laughed at him, she had an affair, she broke up with him, she said the wrong thing at the wrong time, she left him, all excused under the banner of 'crimes of passion' because he couldn't help himself due to her behaviour.

It makes me furious and it makes me sick.
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ArabellaScott · 20/06/2021 14:54

@hoorayforharoldlloyd

We can write to the force to ask why she wasn't protected, kit malthouse the policing minister to ask why stalking is not being taken seriously enough as a crime and the home secretary to ask why we don't have a stalker or domestic abuse register.

I'm so angry it let's use our anger to try and make change. Gracie deserved so much better. 23 years old,I just can't accept this any more.

Thank you, yes. Is there a campaign to look at stalking and how its policed?
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ArabellaScott · 20/06/2021 16:07

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