I was honked at today

[MrGHardy]

No, of course not, it just took me a second or two to realize the target was the young attractive lady (maybe even girl, I was cycling so didn't pay attention but could easily have been a minor for all I could tell) on the pavement.

It was really annoying. I think we should introduce measures to make men experience these things.

I so wish that there was a way to report this- it happens too fast to get a number plate.
If I could report it I would. So wrong

No, we need to stop men doing it.

HTH

I remember a few years back.

Someone beeped and I didn't react.

DH was ??? Don't you turn round when there's beeping near? Could be someone you know or a warning about something.

And I hadn't even realised but did then that I stopped reacting at all when I was about 14 due to experience.

How was the girl? Did she notice? How did you know it was at her and not you?! Did they slow down/ shout or anything else? If not how did you know it was her?

Graffiti that's a positive idea but in practice, do you see there as being any point?

Someone honked at me the other day and shouted MILF at me. I had my 4 month old, 2 year old and 12 year old daughters with me. Honestly felt like throwing a brick at his car as he drove away, fucking horrible little weirdo

OP why do you think the solution is to get men to sexually harass men in the same way as they harass women? How would you even go about making that happen?

Why encourage men to harass boys and men? And make this even shitter?

I'd be interested in understanding how you think this will help?

@NiceGerbil

No, we need to stop men doing it.

HTH

I see, next thing we need is to stop doing all bad things in the world. Just like that.

I had someone honk at me the other day. When I was younger I largely used to ignore it or swear at them but I really didn't expect it at 30 weeks pregnant so I jumped out of my skin and then glared at them. I don't harass men when I'm out and about in my car.

I had a white van full of men repeatedly flash their lights at me the other day as I drove past. I spent my whole drive wondering if there was something wrong with my car I couldn't see, or if the road ahead was blocked. But no, nothing, just penis acting like penis. I have so much disdain for them.

If men were made to experience this they would probably love it so that's not much help

@ShinyGreenElephant

Someone honked at me the other day and shouted MILF at me. I had my 4 month old, 2 year old and 12 year old daughters with me. Honestly felt like throwing a brick at his car as he drove away, fucking horrible little weirdo

Normally, things like car beeps don't really register with me, but what happened to you is just gross. With children around too to witness it. Disgusting.

@ShinyGreenElephant

I had a car full of young men beep me and shout at me when I had just started a run the other day. I was in the process of running to my running club so I could run lead a group and was deep in thought. Really pissed me off and I didn't even catch what they shouted. I really don't get the male entitlement when they think this is acceptable behaviour.

Thanks know your comment about wishing me could experience was tongue in cheek but the irritating thing is that they’ll never understand. They can’t.

If they got wolf whistled or beeped you could never replicate the dread that women experience. That millisecond assessment that you undertake: are they alone/do they look particularly dodgy/ how far away is the nearest house/ do I have trainers on/ where are my keys/are they walking towards me/has their car slowed….

And then on top of that the feeling of absolute frustration. That this affects every trip you take, whether it happens or not (oh I won’t cross by the builders yard, I’ll avoid the teens hanging out by the shops) and has been since you were ten years old.

@NiceGerbil

I remember a few years back.

Someone beeped and I didn't react.

DH was ??? Don't you turn round when there's beeping near? Could be someone you know or a warning about something.

And I hadn't even realised but did then that I stopped reacting at all when I was about 14 due to experience.

How was the girl? Did she notice? How did you know it was at her and not you?! Did they slow down/ shout or anything else? If not how did you know it was her?

This is a great point. A friend’s dad honked at me to say hi (back when I was a teenager). Obviously I completely ignored it and didn’t know until he asked me why I didn’t wave.

Perhaps we need a campaign to tell men we assume anyone who honks is a pervert?

I got told off for not responding to a female relative beeping at me as I was walking along. I always ignore cars, how the hell was I supposed to know it was her? but she couldn’t understand it.