Feel depressed about where I live

[Poppyseedmuffin]

Wondering if I'm alone on this one....Does anyone else ever feel depressed by the town/city/village they live in and want to leave? I often feel a bit of a failure for living where I live, even though we have a lovely marriage, house, relationship, good job etc etc....but still get the urge to move away. DH gets cross with me when I bring up the subject 'What do you think about moving to X, Y, Z place?'...

Anyone else felt the same? Will moving make these feelings go away?

yes.

i have felt depressed and the feeling went away once i got to know people and make friends.

but a couple of times, it was just not the place i needed to be and things only improved once i moved.

BUT it's important to figure out what really is eating you about the place and work through it before moving on.

otherwise you're going to have a hard time finding peace.

No, but my dh feels this about the place we live in which for me is home because it's near my folks and near where I grew up. It causes some problems between us. we're here partly because my parents are able to help us with childcare and it's good for schools etc. So what's good for the family isn't necessarily working for dh as an individual...

I hate were we live, love our house etc but area is shite. We are moving end of may and i couldnt be happier.

Hi Poppyseedmuffin and ExpatinScotland Me too.
I love our house and we are lucky to live in a beautiful area. its just the mad neighbours driving me to despair - (see the steiner threads).

We've lived in the same place for 7 years now and the last 2 have been very difficult. I have tried to make it work, but its just not mentally healthy living here anymore so we are hoping to do a 'geographical' in the next 6 months or so. There is a lot at stake as my dcs are at school, I hope even if things don't work in the new place at least we tried and it's a new experience.

Have you got itchy feet - I have this stifling feeling of great inertia at the moment, or is it more specific? Do you know where you would like to live? I spend far too much time looking at property websites abroad dreaming of a new simple life, though I suspect life will be rather complicated and uphill before we get to destination simple. I feel as if I'm a single mum and would love for dh to be able to free up some time to spend with all the family - it just never happens.

Also got the added difficulty of both sets of parents not wanting us to move abroad - my dm said the other day 'you could wait until we're dead". So I'm quietly terrified that we will never be forgiven, but also struggling to realise I can't live my life for my parents.

Hi barking - sorry to hear about the neighbour troubles. My parents ended up moving from the town where I live 200 miles south and next door to the neighbours from hell. It was awful and put them under enormous stress. Thankfully they managed to sell up and moved 100 miles up country.

For me, it isn't inertia as such, just negative feelings about the town, and annoyed with everyone slagging off where I live. I'd like to move further south, maybe to Hertfordshire/Essex area....not really sure, but definitely south of Midlands. Wouldn't want to move out of the UK though, as really do love this country - just not my town...

So it's not that you don't like it, it's the fact that other people don't like it?

Oh your poor parents, I can completely understand - my only prerequisite at the moment is no neighbours.

no but my dh would love to move to the countryside as would i but i dont want to leave all my family behind

Amy -DH's family all live where we do, and I think that would be one of the reasons he would not want to move. I still keep suggesting the idea and saying 'in a few years'...that way he might get used to the idea.

Barking - I think that I do care too much about what other people think. Always have - it is one of my flaws. So, yes, when others diss where I live, I guess it makes me more down. What makes me cross, is that some of the people who slag the place of, only live 15 minutes or so down the road!! WTF....

The towns they live in are equally as mundane...

Poppyseedmuffin - I understand, I too care far too much what people think, bloody debilitating!
Someone once said something to me that I really took to heart and a friend said 'It's not about you', meaning that this other person wanted me to think like them, but it was their thoughts, history, projection etc. Not mine. So instead of feeling judged, you start to feel sorry for these folk who have to try and foist their opinion onto you
I wonder when I shall grow a thicker skin?

I love my house, not that happy with the street or the neighbours, oh the hours spent looking at property websites, DH wants to move abroad but he would spend the week in the uk, I am reluctant. I am actually driving myself mad worrying about what people may be doing, i spend every weekend living in fear that the neighbours will start doing some mad DIY, the walls are very thin and am scared they will do the whole laminate flooring thing. I do think that these things can eat away.
Not sure about you all but the whole credit crunch is not helping my plans of moving, no point even marketing house at the the mo.