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Trying something new everyday for a year to improve depression?

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nomud · 04/09/2024 13:43

I read this story today, and as someone who struggles with depression (and anxiety) I was initially freaked out and thought, no way is that possible (for me). But I realised it doesn’t need to be big things, it can be something very small as well. I’ve decided to start today and keep a journal. I actually feel kind of excited about it. My mental health has been at an all time low so I’m willing to try anything at this point!

No idea why I’m posting this other than maybe someone else might want to give it a go, as well.

My new thing today is to try cooking with a seasoning I’ve never used before (yes I’m starting small!).

www.goodnewsnetwork.org/depressed-woman-tried-something-new-every-day-for-a-year/

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Pippifer · 04/09/2024 13:51

I’ve seen quite a few Instagram accounts doing similar, partly to ‘take back the day’ instead of just sitting on the sofa after sitting at a desk all day!

So I’m making a real effort to do more new things in the evenings. Last night I started a 12 week language course (in person!). One evening last week I upcycled a bedside table. I’ve also got some embroidery kits I bought off Amazon ages ago that I’m going to make a start on.

Cooking something new is a great idea and I’m going to make an effort to find some new recipes to make. I used to love getting Gousto/Hello Fresh boxes for that reason but I moved and they don’t deliver here!

Iamateadrinker · 04/09/2024 13:51

I think it's definitely worth a try. I've really tried to widen my interests/ visit different places/ try different activities but I've found that I can easily get overwhelmed as soon as " real life" gets in the way.. say I need to sort a MOT or a plumber or work demands increase and I then go into " hibernation" mode.
So I'm trying to strike a balance and keep trying new things but not to berate myself if I need to step back. I would be interested to hear how you get on.

nomud · 04/09/2024 13:59

Pippifer · 04/09/2024 13:51

I’ve seen quite a few Instagram accounts doing similar, partly to ‘take back the day’ instead of just sitting on the sofa after sitting at a desk all day!

So I’m making a real effort to do more new things in the evenings. Last night I started a 12 week language course (in person!). One evening last week I upcycled a bedside table. I’ve also got some embroidery kits I bought off Amazon ages ago that I’m going to make a start on.

Cooking something new is a great idea and I’m going to make an effort to find some new recipes to make. I used to love getting Gousto/Hello Fresh boxes for that reason but I moved and they don’t deliver here!

Which language if you don’t mind me asking? I’m also going to be signing up for a language course, but online as I unfortunately don’t live nearby (but actually I think I would prefer in person as it would be good for me to get out amongst other people). In my case it’s a Japanese course. Can’t count it as new in my case as I’ve already taken Japanese language courses before, unfortunately 😆

Your upcycling project sounds great, I used to enjoy doing that sort of thing as well but lately I couldn’t possess the will. It makes them feel like treasures when you put your own twist on it.

Good luck with your embroidery and cooking!

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nomud · 04/09/2024 14:02

Iamateadrinker · 04/09/2024 13:51

I think it's definitely worth a try. I've really tried to widen my interests/ visit different places/ try different activities but I've found that I can easily get overwhelmed as soon as " real life" gets in the way.. say I need to sort a MOT or a plumber or work demands increase and I then go into " hibernation" mode.
So I'm trying to strike a balance and keep trying new things but not to berate myself if I need to step back. I would be interested to hear how you get on.

Oh yes I hear you on getting overwhelmed. The other day I had to pick up an order from click & collect and just interacting with two people had me wiped out 😅 That was a particularly low reserve day though. That’s why I’m giving myself pre-approval for the new thing to be as minuscule as I have the will for, because I think the main thing is getting out of this headspace of being stuck in a rut, and into the headspace of being open to new things and breaking out of my routine.

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Iamateadrinker · 04/09/2024 17:06

What are you planning for tomorrow OP?
I have chosen a different genre book to read

Pippifer · 04/09/2024 17:15

nomud · 04/09/2024 13:59

Which language if you don’t mind me asking? I’m also going to be signing up for a language course, but online as I unfortunately don’t live nearby (but actually I think I would prefer in person as it would be good for me to get out amongst other people). In my case it’s a Japanese course. Can’t count it as new in my case as I’ve already taken Japanese language courses before, unfortunately 😆

Your upcycling project sounds great, I used to enjoy doing that sort of thing as well but lately I couldn’t possess the will. It makes them feel like treasures when you put your own twist on it.

Good luck with your embroidery and cooking!

Gaelic for me! I live in the highlands and my granny was a native speaker so I was keen to learn. You should def find a course for Japanese, it’s just really nice to have something booked in each week to look forward to. In person is better for me too as I work from home so much, although online is better for the old anxiety 😅 It was a real push to get out the door last night but so glad I joined.

One of the ladies last night said the Open Uni do a lot of free courses so that’s something to think about too.

nomud · 04/09/2024 18:24

Iamateadrinker · 04/09/2024 17:06

What are you planning for tomorrow OP?
I have chosen a different genre book to read

What genre is it? I have a book that I purchased but haven’t gotten around to reading yet (ironically starting something new takes an immense amount of effort for me, why am I only just remembering this now 😄), it’s an author I haven’t read yet so I think it should count as something new 🤔

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nomud · 04/09/2024 18:34

Pippifer · 04/09/2024 17:15

Gaelic for me! I live in the highlands and my granny was a native speaker so I was keen to learn. You should def find a course for Japanese, it’s just really nice to have something booked in each week to look forward to. In person is better for me too as I work from home so much, although online is better for the old anxiety 😅 It was a real push to get out the door last night but so glad I joined.

One of the ladies last night said the Open Uni do a lot of free courses so that’s something to think about too.

Gaelic is an awesome choice! Just watched a short video explaining the different Celtic languages and it was really interesting.

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ADHDHDHDHD · 04/09/2024 20:10

OP at my lowest I've found the only thing that helps is gardening. Pottering around weeding and stuff. Or even visiting a green space. Maybe give that a go.

Meadowwild · 04/09/2024 21:08

I did this and it really worked. And I also kept a journal where I kept track of what I'd done, how I felt (whether i enjoyed it, would do it again or not, whether it felt like an achievement or breakthrough or meh etc.)

One thing I would say though is, don't pile up things that turn into obligations. I let myself try a fitness class once and not return if I didn't feel like it. Same with apps - if I didn't get on with Duolingo, I didn't push myself to keep going with it. The idea is to try 365 new things, not take on 365 new regular obligations.

Some of mine were really tiny - just to get me out of a deep rut - I'd try new scents of shower gel or a new kind of tea or coffee, or walk a new route to or from work and school pick up. Some were just a bit of fun - I'd always wondered if woo stuff would help with depression, so I tried 5 Rhythms dance and shamanic drumming and laughter yoga - all just once.

I tried to say yes to things people suggested.

Sometimes you realise you are already trying something new. It's good to count stuff like that, partly because it often passes us by. So if a friend serves you a food you've never tried before, or you go on a country walk somewhere you;ve never been before - that counts.

As I got into it, I tried to make some of them things I was a bit scared of.

I really hope you get as much from it as I did, OP. Don't make it a burden. Some days I'd realise I hadn't done anything yet and I'd just put a random song from a band I'd never heard of on YouTube or go and stand in the garden to try and find a star constellation that wasn't Orion's belt .

Hope you have fun.

Bohomovies · 04/09/2024 21:12

I love this idea. I’m watching for inspiration.
I went on a short uk holiday recently and I noticed it helped my depression. I was trying to figure out why. Was it a break from the routine, being busy every day (walking, swimming, eating out), or was it trying new things, I wonder.

Nogodsnomasters · 04/09/2024 22:12

Following with interest.

WalkersAntler · 04/09/2024 22:21

This seems like a lovely idea but I think I would feel under pressure knowing that I had to do something new every day and would get frustrated and depressed if I couldn’t motivate myself on some days.
Some days I just have to accept that I need to rest otherwise I get too worn down.

Iamateadrinker · 05/09/2024 06:56

nomud · 04/09/2024 18:24

What genre is it? I have a book that I purchased but haven’t gotten around to reading yet (ironically starting something new takes an immense amount of effort for me, why am I only just remembering this now 😄), it’s an author I haven’t read yet so I think it should count as something new 🤔

It's historical non fiction. Well I didn't manage anything new yesterday so not a great start. Does anyone find that if they have something specific to do on a day that they "freeze" until it's done? I mean on top of childcare/ work etc. If I have a phone call to make or am waiting for a response from an email for example that's all I can focus on until it's done...this is new since menopause.
And then I'm cross with myself and try to do everything the next day... So get overwhelmed...so " hibernate"... rinse and repeat.
I might try journalling to see what my triggers are/ actually see what I do achieve.
Did you buy a specific journal OP?

GorgeousTulips · 05/09/2024 07:02

Great idea. I can feel myself sliding into SAD already . I started doing pottery classes recently and it’s really cha fed my outlook. Course has ended but I’m booked into the next one . The interim period feels depressing. .

ReadWithScepticism · 05/09/2024 07:39

I initially felt a bit overwhelmed at the idea when I read the thread title. I thought: "No, that would be setting myself up to fail." But then, like you OP, I realised that it could be tiny things.
I think one of the key benefits might simply be to notice the new thing that you have tried, and take time to value it, sense how it feels for you, and congratulate yourself for trying it.
It may even be that most of us already 'try something new' most days without realising we have done it, without taking a moment to appreciate ourselves (and the "something") for what it has brought us.

Sunshineandrainbows23 · 05/09/2024 07:42

I'm thinking just really simple things and perhaps things that don't require a commitment so you can pick n mix according to how you feel that day so you don't get overwhelmed that day?

I'm loving listening to short meditations/guided visualisations on you tube, Great Meditation being my favourite, Podcasts - Rich Roll has a really relaxing voice and interesting backstory, audio books if you don't feel up to reading - again can pick n mix a few depending on how you are feeling. When I'm tired I find I can learn something new just by lying back and listening ... a face mask (a sheet is really easy), hand cream, foot cream, paint nails, a hair mask, again for harder days. Perhaps something you've never eaten before?

I saw somewhere about having a "pamper Basket" that you put in eg a book, a crossword book, hand cream, nail polish, knitting etc which you pull out every day just for something nice for you.

Really good luck :)

nomud · 05/09/2024 08:46

ADHDHDHDHD · 04/09/2024 20:10

OP at my lowest I've found the only thing that helps is gardening. Pottering around weeding and stuff. Or even visiting a green space. Maybe give that a go.

You’re definitely right about the positive effects on mental health. Coincidentally, I happened to read an article this morning about prescribing nature today, if anyone is interested:

’A major scheme helping people in England connect with nature led to big improvements in mental health, a report has found.
The prescribing of activities in nature to tackle mental ill health has benefited thousands of people across England, a government-backed project has shown.

More than 8,000 people were helped to take part in activities including nature walks, community gardening, tree planting and wild swimming. It is thought to be the largest such project in the world so far.
The results showed that after taking part in the schemes, people’s feelings of happiness and of life being worthwhile jumped to near national averages, while levels of anxiety fell significantly.’

I think the biggest hurdle to a lot of things that help mental health is just getting the will to even do the thing. Gardening used to be my passion but over the past two years I was in such a slump that I barely did anything at all, just the absolute minimum. Garden is now what I generously call a wildlife haven. Thankfully not visible to the neighbours 😅 We do get a lot of creatures visiting which makes me happy, but it does look a mess.

As a smaller step (no pun intended) I’ve started a 20 minute daily walk this past week and that has helped me. For example yesterday when I set out I felt like crap, but by the end I noticed my mood had lightened.

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nomud · 05/09/2024 09:56

(Sorry this is so long, I thought it better than filling the thread with individual replies).

@Meadowwild Wow that was great to read your experience of doing this! Yes I totally agree with not making it a burden nor overwhelming. I’ve started a ‘maybe’ list of things I might like to do, if I’m feeling particular zesty that day, but no pressure to do it, just a would-be-nice. I’m trying to have very little pressure, for example if the previous day I’ve decided that the next day I’ll do X, but I realise it’s not in me to do it that day, then I can put that into the ‘ideas’ list and try another day, and come up with something I can manage.

Some days I'd realise I hadn't done anything yet and I'd just put a random song from a band I'd never heard of on YouTube or go and stand in the garden to try and find a star constellation that wasn't Orion's belt .

This is a great tip.

@Bohomovies I went on a short uk holiday recently and I noticed it helped my depression. I was trying to figure out why. Was it a break from the routine, being busy every day (walking, swimming, eating out), or was it trying new things, I wonder.

I think all of the above? Being out in nature, trying new things, getting exercise, a change of scenery, a break from home/work responsibilities…certainly the first three are doable on a regular basis, not necessarily all at once or every day, depending on how you’re feeling.

@WalkersAntler This seems like a lovely idea but I think I would feel under pressure knowing that I had to do something new every day and would get frustrated and depressed if I couldn’t motivate myself on some days.
Some days I just have to accept that I need to rest otherwise I get too worn down.

I totally get that. Definitely don’t put pressure on yourself or in a place where you feel worse. For me I’ve given myself full permission for the thing I do to be truly miniscule. But I understand that coming up with something in and of itself can be draining if you don’t have the mental or physical energy reserves for day to day existing. There was a long time when just showering was a momentous effort. To be honest it still is. Day by day and all that.

@Iamateadrinker Well I didn't manage anything new yesterday so not a great start. Does anyone find that if they have something specific to do on a day that they "freeze" until it's done? I mean on top of childcare/ work etc. If I have a phone call to make or am waiting for a response from an email for example that's all I can focus on until it's done...this is new since menopause.
And then I'm cross with myself and try to do everything the next day... So get overwhelmed...so " hibernate"... rinse and repeat.
I might try journalling to see what my triggers are/ actually see what I do achieve.
Did you buy a specific journal OP?

The very first day I wasn’t able to do anything, just making the decision to do it was enough of a challenge for me 😆 So I counted that as Day 0. Also no pressure to do something new everyday, either. It may be something once a week, or once a month, depending on how you are doing. Regarding freezing, if it’s something I’m anxious about then it consumes me for the day until it’s done, and then afterwards I get so burned out from the pent-up stress. I’m in perimenopause and have noticed an increase in anxiety, lack of focus, and so on, which definitely doesn’t help!

I actually already own an unused journal that someone bought for me years ago so at least it’s getting used at long last 😆

@GorgeousTulips Great idea. I can feel myself sliding into SAD already . I started doing pottery classes recently and it’s really cha fed my outlook. Course has ended but I’m booked into the next one . The interim period feels depressing.

Pottery is on my list! Something I’ve always wanted to do. One of my hobbies that fell by the wayside due to depression is art, I just haven’t been able to possess the will to bother. I still don’t but I feel down the line I could handle a pottery class. What have you made?

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nomud · 05/09/2024 10:12

@ReadWithScepticism I initially felt a bit overwhelmed at the idea when I read the thread title. I thought: "No, that would be setting myself up to fail." But then, like you OP, I realised that it could be tiny things.
I think one of the key benefits might simply be to notice the new thing that you have tried, and take time to value it, sense how it feels for you, and congratulate yourself for trying it.
It may even be that most of us already 'try something new' most days without realising we have done it, without taking a moment to appreciate ourselves (and the "something") for what it has brought us.

Yes I agree with you fully. I think it’s a mindset reset, and also something to feel accomplished with, even if it’s tiny. Some days the smallest of things could be massive, if it’s a struggle to even give a crap about anything that day. I don’t even need to leave the house if that’s not possible on that day. When I first saw the article, I was envisioning big things, or having to go out every single day and ‘do something new’, and I just thought, that’s completely impossible.

@Sunshineandrainbows23 I'm thinking just really simple things and perhaps things that don't require a commitment so you can pick n mix according to how you feel that day so you don't get overwhelmed that day?

Yes that’s exactly it! Giving permission for flexibility is definitely key. It might even be hard to come up with something for the next day if I’m worn out, so just leaving that open for later takes the pressure off.

I'm loving listening to short meditations/guided visualisations on you tube, Great Meditation being my favourite, Podcasts - Rich Roll has a really relaxing voice and interesting backstory, audio books if you don't feel up to reading - again can pick n mix a few depending on how you are feeling. When I'm tired I find I can learn something new just by lying back and listening ... a face mask (a sheet is really easy), hand cream, foot cream, paint nails, a hair mask, again for harder days. Perhaps something you've never eaten before?

I saw somewhere about having a "pamper Basket" that you put in eg a book, a crossword book, hand cream, nail polish, knitting etc which you pull out every day just for something nice for you.

Really good luck :)

Great ideas, I am definitely lacking in the self-care department. A pamper basket is a great gift idea for a loved one as well. And thank you very much for the well wishes!

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nomud · 05/09/2024 10:22

I looked up why doing something new is beneficial to mental health…I understand being out in nature, and exercise, those are well documented. This is not something that familiar to me.

If anyone is interested, this is what I have found:

‘Trying something new every day can be beneficial for managing depression for several reasons, particularly because it challenges the brain, boosts mood, and creates a sense of accomplishment. Here’s how engaging in new activities can help with depression:

  1. *Increases Dopamine and Motivation*
Novel experiences stimulate the brain’s reward system by increasing the release of *dopamine*, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure, motivation, and reward. Depression often reduces dopamine levels, leading to a lack of interest and motivation. By trying something new, you engage the brain’s reward circuits, which can help lift mood and increase motivation.
  1. *Breaks Negative Thought Patterns*
Depression often leads to negative, repetitive thought patterns that can feel hard to escape. Doing something unfamiliar can interrupt these cycles and shift focus away from those negative thoughts, helping to clear mental space for more positive or neutral experiences. It gives your mind a break from the rumination that depression often brings.
  1. *Promotes Neuroplasticity*
The brain has the ability to change and form new neural connections through a process called *neuroplasticity*. Trying new things challenges the brain to adapt and grow, improving cognitive flexibility. This helps combat the cognitive sluggishness that can accompany depression, making it easier to handle tasks, solve problems, and manage stress.
  1. *Boosts Self-Esteem and Accomplishment*
Depression can make you feel stuck and incapable, leading to low self-esteem. When you try something new and even make small progress, it can create a sense of accomplishment and competence. This boosts confidence, reinforcing a belief in your ability to overcome challenges, which is crucial when dealing with depression.
  1. *Increases Social Interaction and Connection*
Some new activities may involve socialising, like joining a new group, attending a class, or trying a team activity. Depression often causes isolation, and social interaction is a key factor in emotional well-being. Engaging in new social experiences can help build connections, reduce feelings of loneliness, and improve mood.
  1. *Shifts Focus and Builds Resilience*
Depression often causes a focus on past regrets or current struggles. Trying new things helps shift attention to the present moment and fosters a growth mindset, where you focus on learning rather than perfection. Each new experience, even if small, builds emotional resilience, making it easier to handle future stress or setbacks.
  1. *Creates a Sense of Routine and Purpose*
Depression can make days feel monotonous or purposeless. By incorporating a daily practice of trying something new, it creates a structured goal to look forward to. Even if the activity is simple, having something fresh on your agenda adds purpose and breaks the routine of depressive inertia.
  1. *Increases Positive Emotions*
Novel experiences can spark *positive emotions* like curiosity, excitement, or satisfaction, which are often diminished in depression. These positive emotions help counterbalance the negative feelings associated with depression, contributing to overall emotional well-being.

Incorporating novelty into daily life doesn’t need to be drastic. Small actions, like taking a different route to work, learning a new fact, or trying a new hobby, can create positive mental shifts. Over time, these experiences can help pull you out of depressive patterns and encourage a more fulfilling and optimistic outlook on life.’

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nomud · 05/09/2024 11:16

I just read this in another thread:

’I’d really urge people to go and sit in court for a day and see how things operate. Most courts start at 10am and the public have full access.’

Not something that has ever crossed my mind to do. Not sure if it would make me more depressed if there are awful cases, or would be good to see the justice system at work? Definitely would be a new experience, not for a full day though 🫨

By the way, if anyone fancies giving this a go (not the court thing specifically, just this experiment in general), feel free to add your experiences as well if you like 🙂 Doesn’t have to be everyday either.

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Meadowwild · 05/09/2024 14:34

@nomud Here's a list of some things I did if it was late at night and I had forgotten to so something new, just to show it really can be something tiny:

Play a piece of music on You tube or Spotify at random, that you haven't heard before. If you like it, add them to your playlist.

Play a short Youtube video of a comedian you have never seen before to discover if you find them funny. If you do, look out for them on TV and see if they are playing live.

Tune your radio to a new station (I like cheesey europop) while you have a bath.

Sign up to one of those 'poem-a-day emails and read one before sleep. You don't have to read them every day but they are there if you need something new.

Put a favourite phrase into Google translate and add a random language.

Stand on one leg while you clean your teeth.
Do squats while you clean your teeth
Or side lunges

Try one of the more out-there online suggestions for relieving stress. I found this crazy American lady who just shook all over. You start with one hand and keep going until your whole body is shaking.
There was a yogic breather who did this rapid breath thing that made me feel wide awake (must try that again)

Make yourself a herbal or fruit tea you've never had before, or flavour hot milk with nutmeg or vanilla and cinnamon or almond essence, and go and sip it slowly, looking at the moon and clouds.

Rearrange one small but noticeable item of furniture in your house to a place it has never been before, but fits well, so you feel refreshed at the sight of it when you come downstairs next morning - a lamp, a mirror, a chair or side table.

nomud · 05/09/2024 15:52

Meadowwild · 05/09/2024 14:34

@nomud Here's a list of some things I did if it was late at night and I had forgotten to so something new, just to show it really can be something tiny:

Play a piece of music on You tube or Spotify at random, that you haven't heard before. If you like it, add them to your playlist.

Play a short Youtube video of a comedian you have never seen before to discover if you find them funny. If you do, look out for them on TV and see if they are playing live.

Tune your radio to a new station (I like cheesey europop) while you have a bath.

Sign up to one of those 'poem-a-day emails and read one before sleep. You don't have to read them every day but they are there if you need something new.

Put a favourite phrase into Google translate and add a random language.

Stand on one leg while you clean your teeth.
Do squats while you clean your teeth
Or side lunges

Try one of the more out-there online suggestions for relieving stress. I found this crazy American lady who just shook all over. You start with one hand and keep going until your whole body is shaking.
There was a yogic breather who did this rapid breath thing that made me feel wide awake (must try that again)

Make yourself a herbal or fruit tea you've never had before, or flavour hot milk with nutmeg or vanilla and cinnamon or almond essence, and go and sip it slowly, looking at the moon and clouds.

Rearrange one small but noticeable item of furniture in your house to a place it has never been before, but fits well, so you feel refreshed at the sight of it when you come downstairs next morning - a lamp, a mirror, a chair or side table.

Edited

Those are lovely suggestions, you strike me as having quite a peaceful aura (hopefully that isn’t a weird thing to say). I’m really glad and heartened to hear this approach has helped you! I haven’t done my thing yet for today but I’ve set my book on my pillow to read before bed, so I don’t forget 😅

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Overthinker2022 · 07/09/2024 11:12

Some of these posts are very inspiring .. I need to try something like this !! I'm on antidepressants for depression and anxiety and everyday is a struggle, along with working full time.

I like the idea of a language course .. maybe Spanish ??